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Robin Wilson Successful Business Woman and A Proverb 31 Woman


Women in today’s society are UNDERVALUED, MARGINALIZED and UNAPPRECIATED, although they play a major role in all of our lives day in and day out.  In this lesson today, we want to demonstrate how they are at the forefront in every aspect of our lives teaching us how they use SELF-DISCIPLINE to instill LEADERSHIP in their FAMILIES and the MARKET PLACE, at the same time providing great value to the family’s net worth, and we still UNDERVALUE what they bring to the table, and do not reward them equally for their many gifts, by doing this we continue to MARGINALIZE their talents and show just how much they are truly UNAPPRECIATED.  

Successful Business Woman

Let us first define SELF-DISCIPLINE and how it works:  We will define it here simply as that quality that allows a person to do what needs to be done when he or she doesn’t feel like doing it:  Toughing it out, risking an opinion, making a decision when everyone else is paralyzed by uncertainty.  In many situations other people know what to do, but are too tired or afraid or apathetic to act.  That’s when someone who is equally tired and equally afraid steps forward and does what’s needed.  This person has that elusive quality called SELF-DISCIPLINE.  And whether from a formal or informal position in the organization, that person provides LEADERSHIP.

From that basic working definition we will look at an example of a woman who exhibited great SELF-DISCIPLINE in her own life, and reaped the rewards of her efforts.  She may be a literal woman, or she may be Wisdom personified.  Either way she teaches some important things about SELF-DISCIPLINE and LEADERSHIP.   Now as you read this poem, we encourage you to think about how you can integrate some of her charters traits into your own life as a leader in your family or business.

In Proverb’s 31, KING SOLOMON wrote the following poem about a WIFE of NOBLE CHARACTER and this is the person we are using to demonstrate our message today.  King Solomon said:

She is a wife of noble character who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,

She is a woman of Humility

and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household

and portions for her maidens.
She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
She puts her hands to the distaff,

A Proverb 31 woman is a Woman of Prayer

and her hands hold the spindle.
She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.[
She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

Composure, presence of mind, cool headedness, patience, self-possession, restraint—only a few people display these qualities, and those who do usually make effective leaders.  This woman of NOBLE CHARACTER, displayed all of them, and in doing so, taught us a valuable lesson in what it really means to be placed in a LEADERSHIP POSITION and earn respect, never to be UNDERVALUED, MARGINALIZED and UNAPPRECIATED.  Therefore, if you want to be an effective leader, identify the habits you need to build into your life so you can lead with diligence—habits such as physical fitness, balance between work and home, financial and personal accountability, proactively in the workplace, and the like.  It is now time for you to strap on your shoes and get going.  Disciplined habits will give you the momentum you need to not only move forward, but also to run your earthly race with strength and purpose, and achieve success as a true visionary leader only can.

We encourage you to think deeply on this message, eat and drink it daily for your spiritual meals over the next 90 days, and when you do this in the right way you will have learned the art of, “HOW NOT TO BE UNDERVALUED, MARGINALIZED AND UNAPPRECIATED!”



1 Corinthians 14:26-33, 39-40

The Message (MSG)

So here’s what I want you to do. When you gather for worship, each one of you be prepared with something that will be useful for all: Sing a hymn, teach a lesson, tell a story, lead a prayer, provide an insight. If prayers are offered in tongues, two or three’s the limit, and then only if someone is present who can interpret what you’re saying. Otherwise, keep it between God and yourself. And no more than two or three speakers at a meeting, with the rest of you listening and taking it to heart. Take your turn, no one person taking over. Then each speaker gets a chance to say something special from God, and you all learn from each other. If you choose to speak, you’re also responsible for how and when you speak. When we worship the right way, God doesn’t stir us up into confusion; he brings us into harmony. This goes for all the churches—no exceptions.

Three things, then, to sum this up: When you speak forth God’s truth, speak your heart out. Don’t tell people how they should or shouldn’t pray when they’re praying in tongues that you don’t understand. Be courteous and considerate in everything.




"Satan Sowing Seeds" by Felicien Rop...

"Satin sowing seeds of fear in your mind"

The Bible teaches us that fear is a spirit, it is an evil spirit, and it is one of the causes of so many of our failures in life.  However, we find that the Bible also teaches us in II Timothy 1:7 this lesson; “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” Paul gave this Scripture to Timothy right in the midst of telling him to stir up his spiritual gifts, to testify for Jesus Christ, and to share with Paul in the sufferings of the gospel of Jesus Christ. Satan does not want you to use your spiritual gifts. He does not want you to talk about Jesus, and he wants you to be afraid of the suffering that you may or may not experience if you do talk about Jesus.

As we discover today, too many Christians, it seems that Satan has succeeded to stop many from moving forward by means of this one evil power alone. It’s estimated that a spirit of fear today oppresses 80% of Christians.  However, Proverbs 11:9 says, “Through knowledge the righteous will be delivered”. We need the genuine knowledge of God to be delivered from the Spirit of Fear.

Fear stops people not only in the areas of witnessing and using our spiritual gifts. The fear of rejection has hindered people from beginning wonderful relationships. The fear of failure has held many back from beginning wonderful enterprises. The fear of death paralyzes and torments many. There are many other kinds of fear. God has not given us a spirit of fear, but unfortunately, many Christians have received a spirit of fear at some time in their life. They received what Satin was handing out to them. Many times, they received it before they became Christians, and they have not known God well enough to get rid of it since that time.

One thing is clear; no Christian received a spirit of fear from God. In fact, the Bible tells us in 1 John 4:18 that “perfect love casts out fear”. The more of the divine love of God that we receive into our lives, the less scope there is for fear to get a grip.

A man was once robbing a bank. In the midst of it, a woman comes up to him and tells him to put the gun down, and give himself up. What gave this woman such tremendous courage? She was the man’s mother, and her love for the son overcame that sense of fear. Fear tends to attract evil upon us, just as faith tends to attract the goodness and blessings of God. Fear is a substance of things we hope will not happen, it is almost like a conviction that they will happen.

Fear is faith in reverse. However, it is faith in the devil, whether we know it or not. God wants Christians to be free of such fear. There is a fear, which is good, and clean, which is the fear of the Lord. Many blessings are associated with the healthy fear of the Lord. We are not talking about that kind of fear here. Neither are we talking about the natural healthy fear, which would affect us if for example we were to contemplate jumping off a cliff or walking into heavy speeding traffic. We are talking about tormenting fear. This fear is strictly of the devil, and we must overcome in order to be successful in our undertaking.  Why?  Because God did not give us this spirit of fear, He gave us a spirit of power and love.  Inside that spirit of power given to us by God, we can overcome.  We can rise above the power of the devil, and we can succeed at whatever we sat our minds out to do, we can do it.  The power lies in our faith, the faith to believe the word of God.  That if God said it, it is truth in action, and we must believe that truth, and when we do, we are then empowered with the spirit of the power God gave us from the beginning of time.  “DO YOU BELIEVE?


Are you the type of person that is always taking and never giving? Do you seek sex from your spouse for the pure enjoyment of getting your rocks off, and not being mindful of your spouse’s need?
We need to understand that we all have needs, and we must learn to be respectful of our partners. Sex is primarily a spiritual act of oneness symbolized with a physical act. For it to be a blessing in marriage, there needs to be emotional and spiritual wholeness, free of domination, manipulation and control from either spouse.

Emotional wounding or bondage in either person will damage and distort sexual intimacy. To have a healthy sexuality, you need complete trust, mutual respect and appreciation of each other which leads to oneness of body, soul and spirit. This creates a godly sexual soul tie. An ungodly sexual soul tie occurs when sexuality becomes a tool of control. Yes, there can be an ungodly sexual soul tie even in Christian marriage. There can even be sexual abuse in Christian marriage, which is covered up by insisting on the scriptural submission of women to the will of the male.

Know in your heart, that it is a sin to dominate, manipulate or control a spouse in any way, including sexuality. It shows disrespect and treats the person as an object to meet the emotional needs of the other.

Sexuality can be used as a tool of punishment or reward to control the other spouse. When it is used as a way of reassuring yourself of worth or acceptance, it can easily become an addiction that drives you for more. A very simple test of sexuality is to ask yourself this question, “during sex are you lovingly giving yourself to your spouse or taking what you believe to be rightfully yours?” If you are taking then you are on dangerous ground!

In my observation, most sexual problems are emotional and spiritual, not physical. The solution is the healing of our wounds. We need to learn to love unconditionally. When we can detach ourselves from believing that we have total control of our spouses’ body, mind and soul and learn to trust and give them the love and respect they deserve, then we are on our way to learning the greatest lesson of all. “The art of a lover is to make the love last as long as possible.” Capture the spirit of this sentence and you capture the meaning of learning how to love unconditionally. In any relationship, this is the greatest challenge of all. However, it is one that we must learn to embrace, and understand if we are to have a complete loving and romantic life together as one.

Using Sex as a tool to control your spouse will only destroy any love that was developed in the relationship from the beginning.  Sooner are later your spouse is going to get tire of being used and abused and the results is going to end in disaster.  Learn to build respect between you and your spouse, and give without expecting anything in return.  Know that God is love, and He commands us to love our neighbor as ourselves.  That simply means loving our spouse and their bodies as we would love our self and our own bodies.



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