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My Brothers and Sisters, we enter into the presence of the Lord to Worship Him and Serve Him.  Sometimes our hearts are troubled and we find it difficult to understand why we are having to face down our enemies day in and day out, week end and week out.  The stress upon our daily lives seems to be beating us down and sometimes we feel like we want to just give up and let the enemy have his way. But I tell you for a believer, this should never be an option.  You should always be able to find enough strength within your FAITH to lift up your heads towards heaven and say, “IN GOD I TRUST!”

David faced a similar situation from his own countrymen, and he turned to the Lord in prayer for God’s gracious help in view of the constant harassment of his pursuers, and this is David’s prayer:


Be gracious to me, O God, for man tramples on me;
all day long an attacker oppresses me;
my enemies trample on me all day long,
for many attack me proudly.
When I am afraid,
I put my trust in you.
In God, whose word I praise,
in God I trust; I shall not be afraid.
What can flesh do to me?

All day long they injure my cause;

all their thoughts are against me for evil.
They stir up strife, they lurk;
they watch my steps,
as they have waited for my life. AMEN! (Psalm 56:1-6 ESV)


Now put your hands together and open your mouth wide and give the Lord a big shout out of hallelujah praises. When prayer and praises go up, faith breaks out all over the place.  David said, whenever I am afraid, “I will trust in you Lord.”  This cheerful courage is based on the character of God and on the faithfulness of His promises.  He is more powerful than all our foes combined, and He has promised to protect us from harm.  Nothing can penetrate the protective hedge which He sets up around us except by His permissive will.  This is why we can trust in God without a fear.

My Brothers and Sisters let us be bold in our praises before the Lord, for He is truly worthy.  What can mere man do to me, I ask you?  If I reason, I might answer, “Plenty.”  Man can persecute, injure, maim, shoot, and even kill me.  But the fact is that the child of God which I am, and you are, is immortal until his work is done.  Also we should understand David’s fearlessness in the light of our Savior’s words.

And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul.  But rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.  (Matthew 10:28)

My Brothers and Sisters let this be a day of remembrances that the Lord is good all the time, and He will never fail you nor forsake you, therefore, when your enemies come upon you to do harm to you, STAND YOUR GROUND and say out loud, “IN GOD I TRUST!”


We will return in a few hours to continue our Sunday portion of our PRAYER, PRAISE AND WORSHIP SERVICE 72 titles: STIR UP YOUR GIFT!

Until we meet in our next session, may God bless each of you ABUNDANTLY!

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Finding Comfort in Closeness


Today let us begin our conversation with the word closeness and then try and focus our minds of what this word means to us as we try and draw closer to our mate. First let us understand that the word closeness means more than physical proximity: it is the feeling that you can be wholly yourself in your partner’s company, that just being together has natural positive value. If you lack this feeling you can be like strangers going through the motions of sharing a life without the warmth of intimacy. Closeness takes many forms; physical, emotional, intellectual, social and spiritual. Each of these types is potent and can enrich a relationship in a different way. Ideally, you should aim to develop closeness in all these areas, but in practice, most couples tend to be close in some ways and not in others. Focus on your weakest forms of closeness first. Bear in mind that for most couples the most important types of closeness to cultivate are emotional and physical.

There is no doubt that human beings feel closes to each other when they enjoy body contact. As babies, we are happiest when we are cuddled up, skin to skin, with our mother or father. And throughout adult life we continue to derive a sense of security and comfort from physical closeness with others. Unfortunately, most couples touch each other less and less as their relationship matures, and their emotional remoteness tends to increase with this loss of physical contact.

To help rediscover physical and emotional closeness, why not start a new routine of hugging each other. You can start by hugging whenever one of you leaves the home or returns. Try to stay in the hug for at least two full in breaths and out breaths. Allow yourself to relax and focus all your attention on the sensations of warmth and closeness. Once you have developed the habit of hugging each other at certain times, you will find that you start to touch each other more often, in a more spontaneous way.  Why not try it, you just might rekindle a flame that has gone dim and ignite a spark that can start a fire of romance that you never knew you could enjoy.  What is it going to cost you?  The moment is upon you.  Tomorrow may never come in a way that you might have the opportunity to be a part of it.  Reach out and take your lover in your arms, embrace your lover, relax and just enjoy the moment.



We are in great need of pastors and teachers who will come boldly before the throne of grace and preach the gospel of Jesus Christ.  It is only the minister who stands forth as a personal witness and living proof of the ministry of the Spirit whose word will have full entrance into the hearts of the people and exercise full sway over them.  The first disciples obtained the baptism on their knees, and on their knees they obtained it for others.  It will be on our knees also that the full blessing will be won today.  Let this be the attitude in which we await the full blessing of our God.

Have you received the Holy Spirit since you believed?  To be filled with the Holy Spirit of God and to have the full enjoyment of the Pentecostal blessing is the will of God concerning us.  Judge your life and your work before the Lord in the light of this question and return the answer to God.

Do not be afraid to confess before your Lord what is still lacking in you. Do not hold back, although you do not as yet fully understand what the blessing is or how it comes.  The early disciples called on their Lord and waited with prayer and supplications.

Let your heart be filled with a deep conviction of what you lack, a esire for what God offers, and a willingness to sacrifice everything for it. Then you may rest assured that the marvel of Jerusalem and Samaria, of Caesarea and Ephesus, will once again be repeated.  We may and we will be filled with the Spirit.


Your Faith is Victory over the world (Part 2 of 2) 1 John 5:4

In lesson one we finished by answering the question, “Who are those that overcome the world?”  Today we begin with question III. Why do believers overcome the world? On what principle is this result affected?

I answer, this victory over the world results as naturally from the spiritual or heavenly birth, as coming into bondage to the world results from the natural birth.

It may be well to revert a moment to the law of connection in the latter case, viz., between coming into the world by natural birth and bondage to the world. This law obviously admits of a philosophical explanation, at once simple and perceptible to every one’s observation. Natural birth reveals to the mind objects of sense and these only. It brings the mind into contact with worldly things. Of course it is natural that the mind should become deeply interested in these objects thus presented through its external senses, especially as most of them sustain so intimate a relation to our sentient nature and become the first and chief sources of our happiness.

Hence, our affections are gradually entwined around these objects, and we become thoroughly lovers of this world ere our eyes have been opened upon it many months.

Now, alongside of this universal fact, let another be placed of equal importance and not less universal.  Namely, that those intuitive powers of the mind which were created to take cognizance of our moral relations, and hence to counteract the too great influence of worldly objects, come into action very slowly, and are not developed so as to act vigorously until years are numbered as months are in the case of the external organs of sense. The very early and vigorous development of the latter brings the soul so entirely under the control of worldly objects that when the reason and the conscience come to speak, their voice is little heeded. As a matter of fact, we find it universally true that unless divine power interpose, the bondage to the world thus induced upon the soul is never broken.

Nevertheless, the point, which I particularly desired to elucidate, was simply this, that natural birth, with its attendant laws of physical and mental development becomes the occasion of bondage to this world.

Right over against this lies the birth into the kingdom of God by the Spirit. By this the soul is brought into new relations — we might rather say, into intimate contact with spiritual things. The Spirit of God seems to usher the soul into the spiritual world, in a manner strictly analogous to the result of the natural birth upon our physical being. The great truths of the spiritual world are opened to our view through the illumination of the Spirit of God; we seem to see with new eyes, and to have a new world of spiritual objects around us.

As concerning natural objects, men not only speculate about them, but realize them; so in the case of spiritual children do spiritual things become not merely matters of speculation, but of full and practical realization also. When God reveals Himself to the mind, spiritual things are seen in their real light, and make the impression of realities.

Consequently, when spiritual objects are thus revealed to the mind, and thus apprehended, they will supremely interest that mind. Such is our mental constitution that the truth of God when thoroughly apprehended cannot fail to interest us. If these truths were clearly revealed to the wickedest man on earth, so that he should apprehend them as realities, it could not fail to rouse up his soul to most intense action. He might hate the light, and might stubbornly resist the claims of God upon his heart, but he could not fail to feel a thrilling interest in truths that so take hold of the great and vital things of human well-being. Let me ask, is there a sinner in this house, or can there be a sinner on this wide earth, who does not see that if God‘s presence was made as manifest and as real to his mind as the presence of his fellow-men, it would supremely engross his soul even though it might not subdue his heart.

This revelation of God‘s presence and character might not convert him, but it would, at least for the time being, kill his attention to the world.

You often see this in the case of persons deeply convicted you have doubtless seen persons so fearfully convicted of sin, that they pared nothing at all for their food nor their dress. O, they cried out in the agony of their souls, what matter all these things to us, if we even get them all, and then must he down in hell!

But these thrilling and all-absorbing convictions do not necessarily convert the soul, and I have alluded to them here only to show the controlling power of realizing views of divine truth.

When real conversion has taken place, and the soul is born of God, then realizing views of truth not only awaken interest, as they might do in an unrenewed mind, but they also tend to excite a deep and ardent love for these truths. They draw out the heart. Spiritual truth now takes possession of his mind, and draws him into its warm and life-giving embrace. Before, error, falsehood, death, had drawn him under their power; now the Spirit of God draws him into the very embrace of God. Now he is begotten of God, and breathes the spirit of sonship. Now, according to the Bible, “the seed of God remaineth in him,” that very truth, and those movings, of the spirit which give him birth into the kingdom of God, continue still in power upon his mind, and hence he continues a Christian, and as the Bible states it, “he cannot sin, because he is born of God.” The seed of God is in him, and the fruit of it brings his soul deeply into sympathy with his own Father in heaven.

Again, the first birth makes us acquainted with earthly things. The second with God; the first with the finite, the second with the infinite; the first with things correlated with our animal nature, the second with those great things which stand connected with our spiritual nature, things so lovely, and so glorious as to overcome all the ensnarement’s of the world.

Again, the first begets a worldly, and the second a heavenly temper. Under the first, the mind is brought into a snare, under the second; it is delivered from that snare. Under the first, the conversation is earthly; under the second, “our conversation is in heaven.”

But we must pass to inquire,

IV. How this victory over the world is achieved.

The great agent is the Holy Spirit. Without Him, no good result is ever achieved in the Christian‘s heart or life. The text, you observe, says, “This is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith.” But here the question might be raised: Does this mean that faith of itself overcomes the world, or, is this the meaning, that we overcome by or through our faith? Doubtless the latter is the precise meaning. Believing in God, and having realizing impressions of His truth and character made upon our mind by the Holy Ghost given to those who truly believe, we gain the victory over the world.

Faith implies three things. 1. Perception of truth. 2. An interest in it. 3. The committal or giving up of the mind to be interested and controlled by these objects of faith.

Perception of the truth must come first in order, for there can be no belief of unknown and unperceived truth. Next, there must be an interest in the truth which shall wake up the mind to fixed and active attention; and thirdly, there must be a voluntary committal of the mind to the control of truth. The mind must wholly yield itself up to God, to be governed entirely by His will, and to trust Him and Him alone as its own present and eternal portion.

Again, faith receives Christ. The mind first perceives Christ‘s character and His relations to us — sees what He does for us, and then deeply feeling its own need of such a Savior, and of such a work wrought in and for us as Jesus alone can do, it goes forth to receive and embrace Jesus as its own Savior. This action of the soul in receiving and embracing Christ is not sluggish — it is not a state of dozing quietism. No; it involves the soul‘s most strenuous activity. And this committal of the soul must become a glorious, living, energizing principle — the mind not only perceiving, but yielding itself up with the most fervid intensity to be Christ‘s and to receive all the benefits of His salvation into our own souls.

Again, faith receives Christ into the soul as King, in all His relations, to rule over the whole being — to have our heart‘s supreme confidence and affection — to receive the entire homage of our obedience and adoration; to rule, in short, over us, and fulfil all the functions of supreme King over our whole moral being. Within our very souls we receive Christ to live and energize there, to reign forever there as on His own rightful throne.

Now a great many seem to stop short of this entire and perfect committal of their whole soul to Christ. They stop short perhaps with merely perceiving the truth, satisfied and pleased that they have learned the theory of the Gospel. Or perhaps some go one step further, and stop with being interested — with having their feelings excited by the things of the Gospel, thus going only to the second stage; or perhaps they seem to take faith, but not Christ; they think to believe, but after all do not cordially and with all the heart welcome, Christ Himself into the soul.

All these various steps stop short of really taking hold of Christ. They none of them result in giving the victory over the world.

The true Bible doctrine of faith represents Christ as coming into the very soul. “Behold I stand at the door and knock; if any man hear My voice and open the door, I will come in to him and sup with him, and he with Me.” What could more forcibly and beautifully teach the doctrine that by faith Christ is introduced into the very soul of the believer to dwell there by His gracious presence?

Since my mind has been drawn to the subject, I have been astonished to see how long I have been in a purblind state of perception in respect to this particular view of faith. Of a long time I had scarcely seen it; now I see it beaming forth in lines of glory on almost every page. The Bible seems to blaze with the glorious truth, Christ in the soul, the hope of glory; God, Christ, dwelling in our body as in a temple. I am amazed that a truth so rich and so blessed should have been seen so dimly, when the Bible reveals it so plainly. Christ received into the very soul by faith, and thus brought into the nearest possible relations to our heart and life; Christ Himself becoming the all-sustaining Power within us, and thus securing the victory over the world.  Christ, living and energizing in our hearts — this is the great central truth in the plan of sanctification, and this no Christian should fail to understand, as he values the victory over the world and the living communion of the soul with its Maker.

Let us pray, Father we thank you for the victory in Jesus Name.  Thank you father, for allowing us to be in the world, and at the same time providing us with the tools, and power to overcome the world.  Thank you for bringing us into the fullness of your love for all your children.  Thank you for truth and allowing us to fulfill our purpose on this earth.  Father we honor you and give you all the glory.  We are here today because of your love, mercy and grace.  We thank you for grace in Jesus name.  Amen.




Therefore I tell you, stop being perpetually uneasy (anxious and worried) about your life, what you shall eat or what you shall drink; or about your body, what you shall put on. Is not life greater [in quality] than food, and the body [far above and more excellent] than clothing?  (Matthew 6:25) AMP

We are living in a time when our minds are filled with external authority.  We submit to the news of doom and gloom, always forgetting that there is a higher authority that is in control and if we can learn how to lean and depend on Him, we will never have anything to worry about.  But we know that in the world of reality, that people who lead others or carry organizational responsibility find more than enough reasons to worry—deadlines, financial pressures, market instability and other pressures (you fill in your own blanks here) make stomachs churn and account for many a sleepless night.  But Jesus cautions us against worrying about anything—even the food we eat or the clothes we wear.  In this passage, Jesus gives his disciples (and us) six reasons for trusting in God rather than worrying.

First, the same God who gives us the greater gift of life will certainly supply the lesser gifts of food and clothing (v 25). The command don’t worry about everyday life does not imply complete lack of concern, nor does it call people to be unwilling to work and supply their own needs.  Food, drink, and clothes are less important than the life and body that they supply.  Because God sustains our lives and gives us our bodies, we can trust him to provide the food and clothing he knows we need.  Worry immobilizes us, but trust in God moves us to action.  We work for our money to supply food and clothing, but we must always remember that these ultimately come from God’s hands.  When the need arises, we need not worry, for we know that our God will supply.

Second, the God who cares for the birds will care for his people.  After all, humans are of much greater value than any bird (v. 26).  The birds need food, and the heavenly Father knows it.  They are dependent upon God’s daily provision because they cannot plant or harvest or put food in barns.  They work, they hunt for it and then bring it back to their families, but they don’t worry.  If God cares for the birds, makes sure that the natural order of his creation supplies food for them, how much more will he care for a hungry human being?  People are far more valuable to him than the birds.  Jesus was teaching total dependence upon God as opposed to humanity’s self-sufficiency.  All that we have ultimately comes from God’s hand.  Jesus was not prohibiting his followers from sowing, reaping, and gathering food (that is, working for it); but he was prohibiting worrying about having enough food.

Third, worry expends energy pointlessly—it doesn’t change the reality of the situation a single bit (v.27).  Many of us would do well to ask ourselves this question every morning:  “Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?”  Daily we face new challenges, concerns, problems, and choices.  Will we worry, or will we pray?  Will worrying be of any help whatsoever?  Worry may damage our health, cause the object of our worry to consume our thoughts, disrupt our productivity, negatively affect the way we treat others, and reduce our ability to trust in God.  Worry may in reality, take time away from our span of life rather than adding to it.  It accomplishes nothing.

Fourth, worry ignores God’s demonstrated faithfulness in our lives (vv. 28-30.  The same God who so wonderfully clothes the flowers of the field is responsible to care for them.  Every blossoming flower is a reminder of God’s faithfulness to us.  Sitting on the grassy hillside, Jesus may have gestured to the lilies, probably referring generally to the bountiful flowers in Israel, and pointed out that those lovely flowers don’t have to work or make their clothing.  As in 6:26, Jesus was not condoning laziness while waiting for God to supply.  Instead, he wanted his disciples to place their lives and needs in God’s hands, refusing to worry over basic needs.  To worry about your clothes shows little faith in God’s ability to supply.  God “clothes” the flowers and grass of the field that are here today and gone tomorrow.  If his creation clothes the earth with beauty and color so rich that even King Solomon in all his glory could not match it, then he will surely care for you.

Fifth, we are God’s children (vv. 31-33).  God will never treat us as orphans who need to fend for themselves.  Because God provides food and clothing not only for birds and flowers but even more for his precious human creation, don’t worry.  Do not spend energy fretting over having enough food or drink or clothing.  Worry has no place in the lives of Jesus disciples because their heavenly Father already knows all their needs.

Jesus followers must settle the question of priorities and make the Kingdom of God their primary concern.  To do that, we must consistently honor and represent the Kingdom.  Then the way we deal with family, friends, work, leisure, etc., will all be transformed.  What is most important to you?  People, objects, goals, money, pleasure, and other desires all compete for priority.  Any of these can quickly bump God out of first place if you don’t actively choose to give him first place in every area of life.  Strangely enough, when you get your priorities right, Jesus promised that God will give you all you need from day to day if you live for him.  When Jesus followers seek his Kingdom first, God takes care of their needs.

Sixth, when we worry about tomorrow we miss out on today (v. 34).  Any problem we face can and will be handled, with God’s help, one day at a time.  Because God cares for his people’s needs, Jesus says, “Don’t worry about tomorrow.”  In an appeal to common sense, Jesus explained that what we worry about happening tomorrow may not happen, so we will have wasted time and energy worrying.  We need to reserve that energy because today’s trouble is enough for today.  We only add to today’s burdens when we worry about the future.  No anxieties about tomorrow will change the outcome, for tomorrow will bring its own worries.  The burdens of today are enough, so let God take care of them.  We must trust God for today without worrying about tomorrow.

As leaders who want to influence our generation for Christ, we need to lead in a way that allows others to see our faith in God.  One way we can do that is by depending on God in the face of our daily pressures.  The next time you are under pressure, instead of worrying, pray for the grace you need to depend on God, who is perfectly and eternally worthy of your trust.  Remember that those you lead will see how you respond to such pressures and will follow your actions.




In this third lesson, we will teach you how to bless others by using your own manifest powers and receive greater blessing for yourself.  You are truly the power and present of God.  Now learn how to use this power for a greater good.  Be guided by these words; “Mercy and truth have met together, Righteousness and peace have kissed.  Truth shall spring out of the earth, and righteousness shall look down from heaven.”  (Psalm 85:10-11) NKJV

Your real blessings will begin after you have blessed yourself, and at this point, you will naturally want to share and extend this good, so begin by blessing your entire house and household.  Now make sure that the source of your supply receives a very special blessing.  Praise and bless him for all his manifest evidence of goodness, but here is the truly clever part – praise him most for any quality of character or success that he at present appears to lack, and lo! You will stir within him that very quality.  The following is a true story, which illustrates this very point; here it was a lack of love and loyalty.

A teacher was lecturing on “Blessing” in the New England states.  A very lovely, charming woman was in the audience one who was very unhappy, for her husband had been neglecting her, leaving her alone night after night.  Listening intently and storing away every word the teacher said, she went home, sat down before the fire, put a chair in front of her and mentally placed her husband in it.  She then blessed and praised him for his goodness his kindness his honesty and integrity his success in life and his loyalty, releasing in him every good quality she knew.  All the afternoon she did this at five she went upstairs and put on her prettiest gown.  At six, her husband came home with a box of gorgeous American Beauty roses, also a large box of candy, and gave them to her.  She thanked him, very graciously, but not a word did she say as to how she had spent her afternoon.  After dinner, her husband said, “Do you know, my dear, I hadn’t meant these gifts for you, but as I was leaving my office something said to me, ‘What a chump you are, wasting your time and life.  Go home to your wife, who really and truly loves you.”  He had a complete awakening.  Wasn’t that wonderful?  What about you?  Have you been missing out on your blessings, by being inconsiderate and not blessings the love of your life?

You see, her recognition and invocation of the “Divine Power” within him, her at-one-ment with the All good everywhere evenly present, called forth that marvelous demonstration.  You can do the same thing with anybody or anything.  So bless each member in your household, your friends, all your contacts for the day, the city you live in—this, you are enlarging your horizon.

Example:  Before going downtown, bless the shops, the clerks, and you’ll meet the blessing coming back to you in many unexpected ways.  Did you ever throw a pebble into a pond and watch how the little ripples spread outward in every direction, all coming back to you as well as going forth?  So it is with blessing.

Bless and praise the house you live in, the bed you sleep in, the chairs you sit on, for there is but one substance, one intelligence, by virtue of which everything that has form is life.

There is no reason why you should not bless the rug you walk on, invoke the Presence of the Divine Power within it,—saying, “For the Goodness of God within you, I bless you, and bless you, and bless you, and whoever steps upon this rug will receive a shock of instant good a healing, perhaps, or a manifestation of some desire by receiving, all of a sudden, the right idea to bring it forth.”

This will indeed make it a “magic carpet.”  Likewise, you can bless all of your furniture in the same way.  Learn to put fun, joy, and romance into everything you do.  You are far too serious, which freezes your life forces.  We have almost lost the art of playing.  As Hans Christian Anderson says, “Every man’s life is a fairy tale written by God’s finger.”  Thus these “secrets” will call forth once again in your life the art of playing.

Now I encourage you to meditate on these words, understand the truth of what they are speaking to you.  Allow the Holy Spirit that lives within you to take control of your thoughts as you move to the higher level of blessings.  Know that in everything you do, you are blessed and you are a blessing to others you meet.  Stay tune for lesson four, which will continue to teach you how to bless and be blessed.







Love Love Love

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God commands us to love one another.  Love our neighbor as ourself.  Love is what God is, and what we ought to be.  It is beautifully described in (1 Corinthians 13), and told out in all its fullness at the cross of Calvary.  There is nothing more important in this world than love. If we could only take the time and fill our thoughts with what this statement means in our lives, I am certain that we can have a change of heart about how we really fell about each other.  There is to much hate in this world and not enough love.

We know that hatred, envy, jealousy, and all evil thinking against our fellowman is the works of the flesh.  If anyone of us is led by the Spirit, we then are lifted above the flesh and we become occupied with the Lord.  When we are occupied with the Lord, our thoughts are no longer centered on the things of the flesh and the evil spirits of hatred, envy and jealousy will not entered into the Spirit of the Lord.

We as believers must lift our thoughts above the flesh and walk in the Spirit.  To walk in the Spirit is to allow  God to have His way.  it is to remain in communion with Him.  It is to make decisions in the light of His holiness.  It is to be occupied with Christ, because the Spirit’s ministry is to engage the believer with the Lord Jesus.  When we thus walk in the Spirit, the flesh, or self-life, is treated as dead.  We cannot be occupied at the same time with Christ and with sin.

The Spirit and the flesh are in constant conflict.  God could have removed the fleshly nature from believers at the time of their conversion, but He did not choose to do so.  Why?  He wanted to keep them continually reminded of their own weakness; to keep them continually dependent on Christ, their Priest and Advocate; and to cause them to praise unceasingly the One who saved such worms.  Instead of removing the old nature, God gave us His own Holy Spirit to indwell us.  God’s Spirit and our flesh are perpetually at war, and will continue to be at war until we are taken home to heaven.  The believer’s part in the conflict is to yield to the Spirit.

Scofield describes it this way, he says, “the problem of the Christian life is based on the fact that so long as the Christian lives in the world he is, so to speak, two trees — the old tree of the flesh, and the new tree of the divine nature implanted by the new birth, and the problem itself is, how to keep barren the old tree and to make fruitful the new tree.  The problem is solved by walking in the Spirit.”

In Romans 12:2, the Bible tells us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds.  In other words think on the things of the Holy Spirit and not on the things of the flesh.  Let our minds be filled with the Spirit of Love and not the Spirit of hatred.


Are you the type of person that is always taking and never giving? Do you seek sex from your spouse for the pure enjoyment of getting your rocks off, and not being mindful of your spouse’s need?
We need to understand that we all have needs, and we must learn to be respectful of our partners. Sex is primarily a spiritual act of oneness symbolized with a physical act. For it to be a blessing in marriage, there needs to be emotional and spiritual wholeness, free of domination, manipulation and control from either spouse.

Emotional wounding or bondage in either person will damage and distort sexual intimacy. To have a healthy sexuality, you need complete trust, mutual respect and appreciation of each other which leads to oneness of body, soul and spirit. This creates a godly sexual soul tie. An ungodly sexual soul tie occurs when sexuality becomes a tool of control. Yes, there can be an ungodly sexual soul tie even in Christian marriage. There can even be sexual abuse in Christian marriage, which is covered up by insisting on the scriptural submission of women to the will of the male.

Know in your heart, that it is a sin to dominate, manipulate or control a spouse in any way, including sexuality. It shows disrespect and treats the person as an object to meet the emotional needs of the other.

Sexuality can be used as a tool of punishment or reward to control the other spouse. When it is used as a way of reassuring yourself of worth or acceptance, it can easily become an addiction that drives you for more. A very simple test of sexuality is to ask yourself this question, “during sex are you lovingly giving yourself to your spouse or taking what you believe to be rightfully yours?” If you are taking then you are on dangerous ground!

In my observation, most sexual problems are emotional and spiritual, not physical. The solution is the healing of our wounds. We need to learn to love unconditionally. When we can detach ourselves from believing that we have total control of our spouses’ body, mind and soul and learn to trust and give them the love and respect they deserve, then we are on our way to learning the greatest lesson of all. “The art of a lover is to make the love last as long as possible.” Capture the spirit of this sentence and you capture the meaning of learning how to love unconditionally. In any relationship, this is the greatest challenge of all. However, it is one that we must learn to embrace, and understand if we are to have a complete loving and romantic life together as one.

Using Sex as a tool to control your spouse will only destroy any love that was developed in the relationship from the beginning.  Sooner are later your spouse is going to get tire of being used and abused and the results is going to end in disaster.  Learn to build respect between you and your spouse, and give without expecting anything in return.  Know that God is love, and He commands us to love our neighbor as ourselves.  That simply means loving our spouse and their bodies as we would love our self and our own bodies.


We are saved by God’s Grace

  Paul says in Romans, chapter five, that we are justified by faith (v. 1). Faith means trusting God to love us, because of what he did in Jesus Christ, and entrusting ourselves wholeheartedly to that divine love. Salvation is by grace — we do not deserve God’s favor toward us and we can never earn it. We access this grace by faith, which means that we must always look outside ourselves for our salvation (2 Tim. 1:12).

     We cannot perform the work which results in our salvation, for Jesus has already done that, once for all time. We cannot add to that finished work, or improve on it. We can only trust God to be gracious to us as he promises in Christ. If we picture grace as the room of God’s favor, we may think of faith as the door into that room (Rom. 5:1-2).

     God accepts us because of Christ’s work on our behalf. We enjoy that grace by accepting it as fact, trusting it as sufficient, and throwing ourselves on it in total and eternal abandon, to become servants of righteousness and true holiness in Christ. We do not earn God’s favor. We can not ever please Him enough to be given His blessings. We certainly could never pay for our own sins and be saved. But in Christ God has brought together the justice that is his nature and the weakness that is ours: Christ became a man and took our place.

     God’s grace deals with the weakness of our flesh because salvation does not depend on our weak flesh — Jesus has earned it for us already! It also takes into account God’s holiness, because sin is punished — by the death of God’s sinless Son! And so Paul can say to the EphesiansChristians:

For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, that no one should boast (Eph. 2:8-9).





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