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RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES 24 SHATTERED BUT NOT BEYOND REPAIR

RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES 24 SHATTERED BUT NOT BEYOND REPAIR

SHATTERED BUT NOT BEYOND REPAIR (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

SHATTERED BUT NOT BEYOND REPAIR (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

WRITTEN BY SHIRLEY RHODES   

How often do you find your-self moving from place to place, person to person looking for love; love that always seem to be just beyond your reach?  Sometimes we allow our hearts and spirit to become “play toys” in the hands of those who take pleasure in wounding and maiming others, we then find ourselves Shattered but not beyond repair. When we find ourselves hurting, disappointed and even lost, we must not allow despair to become a controlling factor in our lives. The One we need is there to catch and cushion the fall; we are gently loved and cared for.   Maybe the very circumstance you’ve just came from is a lesson learned to get you to where He has purposed you to be; you may be shattered, but not beyond repair.

If you are looking for someone else to carry your burdens in a relationship, and things don’t exactly work out as planned, you may find yourself Shattered but not beyond Repair. Remember that whatever you are going through; Jesus has said, he would never leave nor forsake you. What you must decide to do is look beyond your present circumstance, focus on where God wants to take you, lift your head high and with determination follow the path he has designed for your life, hold him close to your heart, for you are never alone.

When we awake each day with great anticipation of what the day will bring; it is not a time to allow dread and feelings of defeat to become the major player in the process. We are in a position to take our shattered lives, and place them in the hands of the Master Potter. He carefully planned our existence; therefore, when we find ourselves in a state of confusion and chaos, shattered but not beyond Repair; remember, He is able to mend the broken pieces.

May the Lord answer you in the day of trouble (Psalm 20:1 KJV), may he grant you according to your heart’s desire, and fulfill all your purpose (4); may he fulfill all your petitions (5). When you find yourself is a state of “shattered but not beyond repair” may you find safety within the arms of the Lord, where all your needs will be administered in LOVE.  

Now click on this video clip and experience why Everything Happens for a Reason!

We pray that this lesson has been a blessing to your soul and that you will you it and bless someone else this day as it is purposed.  Click on the link below and visit our home page for some additional studies.  You can also click on our Categories Section and stroll down to Relationships and read all our Relationship Strategies.

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MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME THE LESSON OF FORGIVENESS

MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME THE LESSON OF FORGIVENESS

A Mother’s Arms (Photo by Pastor Davis)

MY MOTHER was truly an inspiration to my soul.  Whenever I felt someone had hurt me, she would simply say, “Son, don’t hold a grudge against them, you must find in your heart the words to forgive them.”  I would say, “but Mom, it hurts, how can I forgive them, they hurt me.”  Son, if you truly want to stop the pain, you must release it and let it go, forgiveness is the only way to your personal peace.

MY MOTHER was a godly woman, she loved and feared the Lord, and she made sure that I understood what she meant when she said I must forgive those who would seek to do harm to me. Now let me share with you the lesson MY MOTHER taught me on FORGIVENESS.  She begin by saying, “Son if the LORD can forgive us of our sins, why do we have such a difficult time of forgiving others when we perceive them to have done us wrong?  Getting rid of our heart aches and pains begins with us.  We must learn to free ourselves of all the negative baggage we carry around each and every day with our unforgiving spirit.

FORGIVENESS works the miracle of change.  When Lincoln was asked why he did not destroy his enemies, he replied:  “If I make my enemies my friends, don’t I then destroy them?”  When you forgive you change others and you change yourself.  You change discord to harmony.

FORGIVENESS should span the years.  You should first forgive yourself for the wrongs you’ve done to yourself and others, for the mistakes you’ve made.  Then you should forgive and bless all those who have wronged you during your lifetime.  Thus you release others and you release yourself.  You break the chains of regret and remorse that bind you.  You free your mind from the burdens of the past so you may walk victoriously into the future.

FORGIVENESS works two ways.  You must forgive to be forgiven.  “He who cannot forgive others,” wrote Edward Herbert, “breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass; for every man has the need to be forgiven.”

FORGIVENESS should become a habit.  When THE MASTER was asked how often we should forgive, he answered: “Until SEVENTY TIMES SEVEN.”  He who forgives to infinity will never hate.

FORGIVENESS should start now.  Putting off forgiving only deepens the wound.  Clinging to bitterness postpones happiness.  Life is short, time is fleeting.  Today is the day to forgive.

FORGIVENESS is the way to personal peace.  It is performing mental surgery in yourself, probing deep within to remove hurts, grudges and resentments.  It is forgetting wrongs as though they had never been.  It is flooding your mind with the powerful medicine of forgiveness that cleanses and heals.  It is discovering a serenity you’ve never known before.

Then with her big beautiful brown eyes, looking and penetrating deep into my soul, the softness of her voice changing, she said, “you may not understand all that I am telling you at this moment, but when the time is right it will all come to you and you will get it and use it to help your own children and others to understand that we all must learn the art of forgiveness.

So on this Mother’s Day weekend, I salute My Beloved Mother for teaching me the art of forgiveness.

MY RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES PART 23

MY RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES PART 23

BUILDING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ON FAITH UPON A SOLID FOUNDATIO N

BY SHIRLEY RHODES

The relationships that you begin is your first step in building a life; the only way to

get a life, is to build one of your own by building it on Faith upon a Solid Foundation, one that will never fail or forsake you.  Remember, Jesus is that Solid Foundation.  He is the beginning and the end.  When you choose to build your Relationship upon this foundation, you would have chosen wisely.

CLOSENESS KEEPS THE FIRE BURNING

Technology offers us many ways to connect instantly all over the world, but when you begin building a new relationship, it is something you have to learn and recognize the need to add to or subtract from. One may ask them-selves, “How do I build a life, from where do I start?” To answer that important question, how does day by day, moment by moment sound? One must make decisions and choices to decide what really makes their life complete. When planting  a garden, the very first step is to make sure the soil is prepared, healthy and then carefully select what is  to be planted; once planted,  wait, as what’s planted begin to appear, nourish and cultivate each seedling to maturity and watch them grow into something really beautiful and beneficial.

 

The same is with relationships that you begin building, making healthy choices in friends; cultivate them just

Cultivating the Garden

as you would your garden.   Give time and attention to those you’ve chosen or those whom have chosen you, soon the relationship start to bloom, continue to feed and nurture it and the rewards can be beautiful. When building that solid foundation remember to add, faith, clear thinking, love and respect, vital for growth.

 Faith works in every aspect of life, how it’s activated is instilled in each of us, it is a gift from GodJesus is the descent of God in our lives; he is alive among us and is for us, not against us, he lives in each of us, our source to draw from. Now imagine this for a moment:

 

When your heart beats its vibrations forces blood through the highways within the body that sustain vital nutrients for life in this earthly realm. When Building Your Own Foundation allow indwelling of the Holy Spirit to be your guide, the Holy Spirit lifts us to another level or dimension with ability to explore and release such an energy force that leaves it’s effect within every person we come in contact with, that is if they are open and ready to receive the energy as it flows.

In order to avoid any interruption of flow, avoid negative thinking and attitudes, when encountered replace that flow of thoughts with positive feedback such as love and encouragement.

Understanding the principles of faith enables one to seek those ideas and thoughts worth holding on to. Troubles and tribulations that come may seem overwhelming because they are viewed from a negative point. Now close your eyes and focus, imagine that there is a long corridor ahead and you can only see so far, beyond that point just might be the biggest blessing of all, one unseen, that block you’ve added while Building Your Own Foundation.

Faith means reliance, scripture reminds us that, “All things, whatever you shall ask in prayer, believing, you shall receive” (Matthew 21:22). Jesus said, “I am the Bread of Life, the person who aligns with me hungers no more and thirst no more, (John 6:35), “I am the World’s Light, no one who followers me

God’s Marvelous Light

stumbles around in the dark. I provide plenty of light to live in” (John 8:12) a reminder to remain diligent while Building Your Own Foundation.

Finally, Building Your Own Foundation on love and respect offers stability that what has been constructed is tangible and deserving of attention and honor from which the foundation was started in order to continue to grow and produce. When plants are not nurtured and feed they soon wilt and die, the same applies to those you’ve chosen to share in life with. With the birth of Jesus, it was the beginning of a new era, his life here connected each of us to the pattern, a process we strive to carry on; through his death, burial and resurrection we are blessed with an opportunity to grow in grace and choose wisely. Keep in perspective that Jesus is the Corner-Stone; that true and solid foundations therefore, build Your Relationships on Faith upon the Solid Foundation of Jesus Teachings of Faith and Love, putting those words of love into action and allowing them to lift you to higher grounds.

 

MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME THE LESSON OF FORGIVENESS

MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME THE LESSON OF FORGIVENESS

A Mother’s Arms (Photo by Pastor Davis)

MY MOTHER was truly an inspiration to my soul.  Whenever I felt someone had hurt me, she would simply say, “Son, don’t hold a grudge against them, you must find in your heart the words to forgive them.”  I would say, “but Mom, it hurts, how can I forgive them, they hurt me.”  Son, if you truly want to stop the pain, you must release it and let it go, forgiveness is the only way to your personal peace.

MY MOTHER was a godly woman, she loved and feared the Lord, and she made sure that I understood what she meant when she said I must forgive those who would seek to do harm to me. Now let me share with you the lesson MY MOTHER taught me on FORGIVENESS.  She begin by saying, “Son if the LORD can forgive us of our sins, why do we have such a difficult time of forgiving others when we perceive them to have done us wrong?  Getting rid of our heart aches and pains begins with us.  We must learn to free ourselves of all the negative baggage we carry around each and every day with our unforgiving spirit.

FORGIVENESS works the miracle of change.  When Lincoln was asked why he did not destroy his enemies, he replied:  “If I make my enemies my friends, don’t I then destroy them?”  When you forgive you change others and you change yourself.  You change discord to harmony.

FORGIVENESS should span the years.  You should first forgive yourself for the wrongs you’ve done to yourself and others, for the mistakes you’ve made.  Then you should forgive and bless all those who have wronged you during your lifetime.  Thus you release others and you release yourself.  You break the chains of regret and remorse that bind you.  You free your mind from the burdens of the past so you may walk victoriously into the future.

FORGIVENESS works two ways.  You must forgive to be forgiven.  “He who cannot forgive others,” wrote Edward Herbert, “breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass; for every man has the need to be forgiven.”

FORGIVENESS should become a habit.  When THE MASTER was asked how often we should forgive, he answered: “Until SEVENTY TIMES SEVEN.”  He who forgives to infinity will never hate.

FORGIVENESS should start now.  Putting off forgiving only deepens the wound.  Clinging to bitterness postpones happiness.  Life is short, time is fleeting.  Today is the day to forgive.

FORGIVENESS is the way to personal peace.  It is performing mental surgery in yourself, probing deep within to remove hurts, grudges and resentments.  It is forgetting wrongs as though they had never been.  It is flooding your mind with the powerful medicine of forgiveness that cleanses and heals.  It is discovering a serenity you’ve never known before.

Then with her big beautiful brown eyes, looking and penetrating deep into my soul, the softness of her voice changing, she said, “you may not understand all that I am telling you at this moment, but when the time is right it will all come to you and you will get it and use it to help your own children and others to understand that we all must learn the art of forgiveness.

So on this Mother’s Day weekend, I salute My Beloved Mother for teaching me the art of forgiveness.

THE PRESIDENT SLOW JAMS THE NEWS

President Barack Obama appeared on the Jimmy Fallon late night T.V show and Slow Jams the News.  This involved a discussion about Congress passing the bill not to increase the college student loans. Watch and enjoy the laughs.

MY RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES PART 21

ARE YOU LIVING OUT YOUR LIFE IN A LOVING RELATIONSHIP?

CLOSENESS KEEPS THE FIRE BURNING

 We’re all either in a relationship, getting out of one are looking for one.  No matter what the situation may or may not be, everyone is seeking love.  Some of us are seeking it in all the wrong places and in all the wrong ways.  No matter, we want love.  We want to be loved and we want to experience it in ways that will define who we are.  Weather we are young or old, rich or poor, we are trying to reach a place in life that will define our happiness, our joy, our place in history, as a man or woman, a family or whatever.  We seek love; we seek to be loved, not knowing that; Love is the foundation and the apex of the pyramid of our existence.

Now listen to what God’s word teaches us about love, it says, “If I speak with the eloquence of men and of angels, but have no love, I become no more than blaring brass or crashing cymbal. If I have the gift of foretelling the future and hold in my mind not only all human knowledge but the very secrets of God, and if I also have that absolute faith, which can move mountains, but have no love, I amount to nothing at all. If I dispose of all that I possess, yes, even if I give my own body to be burned, but have no love, I achieve precisely nothing.

This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience—it looks for a way of being constructive. It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.

Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage. It is not touchy. It does not keep account of evil or gloat over the wickedness of other people. On the contrary, it is glad with all good men when truth prevails.

Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope; it can outlast anything. It is, in fact, the one thing that still stands when all else has fallen. (1Corinthians 13:1-7 Phillips)  

Love suffers for a long time.  Our modern “throw-away” society encourages us to get rid of people in our lives who are difficult to get along with whether they are friends, family, or acquaintances.  Yet this attitude runs in complete contrast to the love described in God’s word.  True love puts up with people who would be easier to give up on.

Love does not envy.  If our love is directed toward others, we will rejoice in the blessings they receive rather than desiring those blessings for ourselves.  Fundamentally, the selfless love that God calls us to does not involve pride or glory.  It does not parade itself and is not puffed up.  In fact, true love does not seek its own.  If we truly love others, we will set aside our own plans, agendas, and entitlements for the good of another.

Love is not provoked.  That is, love is not easily angered or over-sensitive.  When we truly love others, we are careful not to be touchy concerning other people’s words or actions towards us.

Love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth.  The godly love described in this lesson has nothing to do with evil, but has everything to do with what is right and true.  It believes all things and hopes all things.  This does not mean that love is blind or naïve.  When we love, we may recognize problems and failures in people, but we do not lose faith in the possibilities of what people might become.  Love never gives up, knowing that God can change lives for the better.

Finally, love endures all things.  Love accepts any hardship or rejection, and continues unabated to build up and encourage.  When your relationship has been built on this solid foundation of Godly love, no weapon that the enemy may form against it shall ever prosper.  Love is the glue that bounds all hearts that are filled with Godly love together.  After you have carefully studied this word, prayed on it, meditated on it, I leave you with the question that we begin this word with, “ARE YOU LIVING OUT YOUR LIFE IN A LOVING RELATIONSHIP?”

We leave you with this final video clip on forgiveness.

May God bless your Relationship this day, give you the strength to endure the trials and tribulation, give you the sweet spirit of forgiveness, and open your eyes that you will always see the beauty in the one that stands before, the desire to always say those three loving and caring words, “I LOVE YOU.”    I remain your brother in Jesus Christ, Pastor Davis/Master Teacher!

MY RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES PART 20

HOW YOUR BODY LANGUAGE SIGNALS YOUR EMOTIONS TO YOUR PARTNER

What does your body language signal to your Partner?

Sometimes the message signaled by our posture or expression can be at odds with that
suggested by our tone of voice or the actual words we are saying.  This is because we often try to regulate or hide our real emotions.  Is it any wonder, then, that reading each other’s feelings correctly can seem such a complicated undertaking, when you try and determine just, “HOW YOUR BODY LANGUAGE SIGNALS YOUR EMOTIONS TO YOUR PARTNER?”

Sometimes you may find that your partner reacts to you in a way you find perplexing.  What might seem to you a calm discussion can slide swiftly into tension.  It may be that some aspect of your body language of which you are unaware has started this opposition.  A frown, however
fleeting, might be perceived as an expression of hostility or reluctance; a shrug of the shoulders might be taken to mean that you don’t care.  By understanding better how other people are
likely to interpret your facial expressions and bodily postures, you have a better chance of avoiding misunderstandings in the future.

Avoid the trap of trying to limit your body language because you feel it gives away too many of your secrets – this is merely a recipe for becoming less expressive.  Use your hands freely, as people often do – the hands are eloquent, with a language of their own.  Try also to encourage the mobility of your face.  Usually, these approaches have more to do with loosening a habitual rigidity than with acquiring an entirely new means of communication.  Body language already lies latent within you – it is a matter not of putting on an unfamiliar act but of shedding
unnecessary inhibitions.  You will find, as you use your hands and face more in support of spoken language, that you are more accurately expressing and more deeply feeling whatever it is you have to convey.

We encourage you to read all of our relationship strategies and share them with your family, friends, co-workers and all others as a way of Blessing someone this day.  Just go to the side bar on this page and click on RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES listed under PAGES and CATAGORIES.  There you will find a wealth of info we hope that will help you in your daily walk.

Now click on the two video clip below and allow it to bathe your emotions, as you do this, know that your emotion is the key to experiencing new territory and discovering what you can become.

As human beings, you need emotion to connect you with your Spiritual self.

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