HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT PART 2
PARENT’S HAVE THE GREATER RESPONSIBILITY
In part one of this four part series we talked about the role parents play in raising loving and respectable children. We asked you to share your thoughts on what you would do to raise your children up in the right way that would make them a more responsible and productive adult in this society. Several of you responded and I will share a couple of your response here.
One of our own Ministers, Sister Shirley wrote, “What we as adults, leaders, and parents must understand is that children are a gift from God, one to be cherished. They are our future leaders, doctors, teachers, etc., therefore our responsibility should be to teach and guide them now or pay the price in the future. Life is about choice and chance.”
When I was a youth living in a small town, everyone knew everyone and no one was ever afraid to correct us if they saw us doing something wrong. Today, if you correct a child when you see them doing wrong, you will have the parents knocking at your door for chastising their child. You might even have the police come calling on you, if you are lucky that the child has not shot and killed you. There is something badly wrong with this picture, but it is a true one today.
I can recall a time when I was in a vacation bible school; my wife at the time was teaching a Bible Study class with one of our Associate Ministers. I had been called outside to break up a disturbance. When I came back into the church, this young man’s sister was standing in the middle of the church cursing my wife and the pastor out using all sorts of foul language. I escorted her outside and attempted to talk with her to no avail. She left and within a few minutes, just after things had gotten back to normal within the church class, the doors swung open with a loud bang and a loud voice began to roar from the rear of the church. It was the mother of the two teenagers yelling and screaming at me with language worst than her children had used, telling me what she was going to do to me if I ever put my hands on her children again.
Now this mother was the chairman of the usher board within the church. Not only were her children wrong, but she was wrong for the way she handled the situation. Her children went home and lied to her about what had taken place at the church. She was willing to believe the worst from them, and instead of coming to find out what was going on, she came in accusing me and others of striking her children when no such thing had taken place. If this had happened when I was a youth, I would have gotten my butt whipped before I left the church, then I would have been taken home to my parents and they would have whipped my butt again. But you see, in today’s political correctness society, there are too many parents who refuse to correct their own children and will not allow anyone in the churches, schools or the community to do so. Therefore, the youth’s attitude is you are not my parents and you can’t tell me what to do. This is a sad commentary for our youth and it is a factor that is contributing to the youth violence in America today.
Another part of this problem of correcting children is some of the abuse that some parents have perpetuated upon their children that has caused the government to get more involved in our daily lives. We parents are responsible for our children and we must shoulder that responsibility with love, understanding and patience. Children can be a problem. There is much peer pressure on them. They want to fit in with their friends, therefore as a parent, we must try to understand their changing life style, and the growth hormones as they experienced adulthood. We must treat them with respect, try and understand that they too do have problems and they may not always share those problems with us. But we must always be willing to put our arms around them and daily tell them that we love them, even though we may not be having the kind of conversation we would like to have with them. But I tell you that there is power in love. When our youth can feel within themselves that they are loved, it brings a much different kind of respect from them.
Another one of our readers wrote and shared her story with us as to how she as a single parent is raising her daughter and preparing her for adulthood and to become a creative and productive member of this society. Here is what she had to say; “I am trying to be here during my daughter’s childhood and teen years. I have chosen to sacrifice a more materialistic living in favor of being a stay at home mom. I’m available to my child when she comes home from school and stay available until she’s in bed at night. I find this helps immensely in our communication and the trust being built between us. We still have immense challenges, as I’m a single mom, but I’m so glad I made the decision to put her before materialism in our lives.” (The Warrioress Life of a female Blogger) We encourage you to go by and read her writings. You can reach her by clicking on this link: http://lifeofafemalebiblewarrior.wordpress.com/
We also encourage you to share your story with us and we will include it in Part 3 of this series which we will post next week on Tuesday June 25, 2013. Your story just might be the one that helps to encourage another parent to become a better parent or perhaps improve their parenting skills and even save a child’s life.
- Another Day in the Bible Belt vs. Raising my son (amanandhisbrain.wordpress.com)
- Equal To A Child? (psalm25site.wordpress.com)
- Why should the parents spy their children? (weeklyarticle.wordpress.com)
- Stand Up and See (kagayipeter.wordpress.com)
- How to Parent: 23 Years of Parenting Experience Summed Up in 2 Words (averageus.com)
- Modesty In Church (thecatholicsignal.wordpress.com)