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FATHERS ROLE AS LEADERS IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY

FATHERS ROLE AS LEADERS IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY

WHY ARE FAMILIES BREAKING DOWN? 

TRAVIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH CLEVELAND, GA. (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

TRAVIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH CLEVELAND, GA. (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

WRITTEN BY PASTOR TERRY COOMER                                                                                                 Elwood Bible Baptist Church, Elwood, Indiana 46036

THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR IN THE BREAKDOWN OF THE HOME IS FATHERS NOT FULFILLING THEIR BIBLICAL ROLE OF LEADERSHIP IN THE HOME. This is the most important reason for unhappy families.

God says, worship is to be led by the father. “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him” (Genesis 18:9).

Most fathers I know could care less. This is a wicked thing. There is more to being a father than just producing children. The lack of leadership by the father today in every area is the most important factor in the breakdown of the American home. I pray the Lord will give us more men like Joshua.

Joshua 24:14-15, “Now therefore fear the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: BUT AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE, WE WILL SERVE THE LORD.”

There has to be a consecration by dad. There is more to a marriage than just living together in a physical relationship.

Lack of godly male leadership brings about the disastrous consequences of rebellion, delinquency, and sexual promiscuity. Divorce is usually caused by a father not taking his Biblical responsibilities and is something God hates, (See Malachi 2:12-17. Matthew 19:5-6.)

The most important cause of divorce in America is the lack of proper, godly leadership by the father and husband. It is also the most frequent cause of children’s feelings of rejection, behavioral problems, and anxieties.  Ephesians 6:1-4. Notice in verse 4, “And ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” The word “wrath” means a strong desire to avenge. How does a father provoke a child to wrath? By not bringing him up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; Nurture means training with structure. Most fathers have no desire for the Word of God and they are raising angry vengeful children because they are not committed to training their children in spiritual principles as God commands. Of course, they cannot train the child if they are ignorant of God’s principles themselves. That is a picture of the American father.

David Blankenhorn in his 1995 book, Fatherless America,” says “the culture change from a stable, two parent home to the father’s abandonment of his responsibilities of marriage and parenting is America’s most urgent social problem. The father’s absence is the main reason for unhappy homes, many current social problems, and is a national crisis of our time.”

According to the National Fatherhood Institute, 40% of the children in the United States have not seen their father for a year! In the last 15 years “fatherless” children jumped from 10.2 million to 15.6 million. 70% of juveniles in detention centers and reformatories are children of fatherless homes. Statistics indicate that “violent criminals” are overwhelmingly males who grew up without a father’s leadership. This includes 60% of America’s rapists, 72% of adolescent murders, and 70% of long-term prison inmates. One out of every four high school seniors graduate functionally illiterate. It is more than a physical presence. There are many homes where a father is there, but that is all. They want all their needs fulfilled, but do not want to take the spiritual, godly, or normal leadership that God intended. Instead children grow up listening to their parents fight, cuss, yell, scream, spend money on all kinds of entertainment and material possessions trying to be happy.

The father’s failure to take responsibility and leadership in the home has created a valueless, unhappy, fractured home and society. This failure has had a devastating effect on our children and has spawned a multitude of wicked societal problems including delinquency, sexual promiscuity, drug use, and violence.

The family is in trouble in America because men fail to be the leaders God wants them to be. We desperately need to pray for the men of this country to do as God has commanded. The results of the men not obeying God have been disastrous. The great need is for men to repent of their sins, to really come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ, and then to be obedient to the commands of God from His Word. Men must be the leaders God desires them to be. May God help us to pray for the men of America.

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MOTHERS’ DAY WEEKEND SPECIAL PRAISE SERVICE

MOTHERS’ DAY WEEKEND SPECIAL PRAISE SERVICE

WRITTEN BY SHIRLEY RHODES

A good woman is hard to find and worth far more than diamonds (Proverbs 1:10-31, MGS).

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in Fear-Of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her with praises.

Flowers are known as the reproductive organ in plants and when combined into a bouquet there’s beauty and sweet aroma to enjoy. This represents essence and strength of a Mothers’ Love.

GIVE MOTHER HER FLOWERS (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

GIVE MOTHER HER FLOWERS (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

This Mothers’ Day do something different and special for Mom; set a table for two, share in some good conversation, laugh and give her a big old fashion strong hug because she deserves it. Do not ever forget, “Mothers are a Gift to be treasured and that means your Mom is included.”

TEA FOR TWO (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

TEA FOR TWO (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

Remember, your Mother is many women; she is a teacher, she is a doctor, a lawyer, a business executive, a stay-at-home mom; the list is endless as to her capabilities. The role of Mother follows many paths and is done so in such a way that she is able to understand the needs of others. Strength, dignity, and grace are her badge of honor; she is adored by her family. Gods’ design for Mother is not determined by labels of who she is because he has created her for his purpose.  As she grow in wisdom and grace her beauty shines through as a tower of hope and strength for those who may not have as of yet mastered the skill.

MOTHER IS A WOMAN WHO PLAY MANY ROLES (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

MOTHER IS A WOMAN WHO PLAY MANY ROLES (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

Our Mothers’ worry about us in ways that we can never understand, while we are off during our own thing, mother is lying awake at night, silently praying to God to hold our hand, walk with us, keep us safe and bring us back home to them.  Click on this video clip and, REMEMBER!”

A Mother seeks answers when she asks questions:

When a Mother asks, “How can you say you love me?

How often do you call, write or text message?

How often do you ask if I’m well?

How often do you visit, sit and talk for “a spell?”

How often do you think to send flowers or a card?

Do you ever wonder if I worry about you?

Do you ever wonder if I’ve had sleepless nights because I’m concerned about you?

Do you ever wonder if I pray for you and keep you close to my heart?

She ask these questions because she is able to see that we live busy lives and have very little time to share. She ask these questions because  she  see through the eyes of a Mother who loves enough to set you free, but  loves unconditionally.  She is your Mother.  HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY MOM!

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Thank you for visiting with us, we will be featuring a special Mother’s Day Celebration Service all weekend long. So please come back often, receive your blessing and then share what you have receive here with others so that they too may receive theirs.  It is all about love, the love, faith and power of a Mother, your Mother, my Mother, all of our Mothers are those special creatures that has birthed us into this world.

MY MAXIMIZED PRAYER BLESSING FOR THIS LABOR DAY

MY MAXIMIZED PRAYER BLESSING FOR THIS LABOR DAY 

THE LORD PRAYER GARDEN (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

THE LORD PRAYER GARDEN (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

 

Most Holy God, our Heavenly Father, we have truly been blessed to see and experience the dawn of a brand new day.  Time marches on and waits for no one.  For those of us who have received your supernatural blessings to be among the living and have the opportunity to serve a living God, we thank you and rejoice in this awesome opportunity to serve you and enjoy the great abundance of the fruit that you have provided for us on this Labor Day.  As families, friends and relatives gather together to partake of the physical foods and enjoy the fellowship they will experience with one another, we pray for the safety and sanctity of each life and that the indwelling Holy Spirit will move in a powerful way to heal the sick and afflicted, bound up the wombs of the broken hearts,  lift the Spirits of those who are in need of encouraging, put joy in the hearts of those who are grieving, put a smile on the face of those who are frowning,  recreate a brand new spirit in the hearts of those who are harboring evil and hate; for this is truly a day that you have created for change to take place as we gather together and celebrate the winding down of our summer vacations and now await for the fall to enter in.  Father we thank you for this blessing, we love you, we honor you, we lift you up in Holy Praises, and we give our all to you this day for you are truly worthy to be praised.  In Jesus name, we pray, AMEN!

A WORD OF ADVICE FROM FATHER TO SON BE WISE AS A SERPENT

A WORD OF ADVICE FROM FATHER TO SON BE WISE AS A SERPENT 

Oh listen, dear child—become wise; point your life in the right direction. Don’t drink too much wine and get drunk; don’t eat too much food and get fat. Drunks and gluttons will end up on skid row, in a stupor and dressed in rags.

PASTOR DAVIS ADVISES HIS SON MAXIMILLION TO BE WISE AS A SERPENT

PASTOR DAVIS ADVICES HIS SON MAXIMILLION TO BE WISE AS A SERPENT

BUY WISDOM, EDUCATION, AND INSIGHT

 Listen with respect to the father who raised you, and when your mother grows old, don’t neglect her. Buy truth—don’t sell it for love or money; buy wisdom, buy education, buy insight.
Parents rejoice when their children turn out well; wise children become proud parents.
So make your father happy!  Make your mother proud!

 Dear child, I want your full attention; please do what I show you. A whore is a bottomless pit; a loose woman can get you in deep trouble fast. She’ll take you for all you’ve got; she’s worse than a pack of thieves.

Who are the people who are always crying the blues? Who do you know who reeks of self-pity?
Who keeps getting beat up for no reason at all? Whose eyes are bleary and bloodshot? It’s those who spend the night with a bottle, for whom drinking is serious business. Don’t judge wine by its label, or its bouquet, or its full-bodied flavor. Judge it rather by the hangover it leaves you with—the splitting headache, the queasy stomach. Do you really prefer seeing double, with your speech all slurred, Reeling and seasick, drunk as a sailor? “They hit me,” you’ll say, “but it didn’t hurt; they beat on me, but I didn’t feel a thing. When I’m sober enough to manage it, bring me another drink!” Proverb 23:19-35 MSG

 

HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT PART 2

HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT PART 2

PARENT’S HAVE THE GREATER RESPONSIBILITY

THE JOY OF WATCHING MY GRAND CHILDREN GROW UP (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

THE JOY OF WATCHING MY GRAND CHILDREN GROW UP (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

In part one of this four part series we talked about the role parents play in raising loving and respectable children.  We asked you to share your thoughts on what you would do to raise your children up in the right way that would make them a more responsible and productive adult in this society.  Several of you responded and I will share a couple of your response here.

One of our own Ministers, Sister Shirley wrote, “What we as adults, leaders, and parents must understand is that children are a gift from God, one to be cherished. They are our future leaders, doctors, teachers, etc., therefore our responsibility should be to teach and guide them now or pay the price in the future. Life is about choice and chance.”  

When I was a youth living in a small town, everyone knew everyone and no one was ever afraid to correct us if they saw us doing something wrong.  Today, if you correct a child when you see them doing wrong, you will have the parents knocking at your door for chastising their child.  You might even have the police come calling on you, if you are lucky that the child has not shot and killed you.  There is something badly wrong with this picture, but it is a true one today.

I can recall a time when I was in a vacation bible school; my wife at the time was teaching a Bible Study class with one of our Associate Ministers.  I had been called outside to break up a disturbance.  When I came back into the church, this young man’s sister was standing in the middle of the church cursing my wife and the pastor out using all sorts of foul language.  I escorted her outside and attempted to talk with her to no avail.  She left and within a few minutes, just after things had gotten back to normal within the church class, the doors swung open with a loud bang and a loud voice began to roar from the rear of the church.  It was the mother of the two teenagers yelling and screaming at me with language worst than her children had used, telling me what she was going to do to me if I ever put my hands on her children again.

Now this mother was the chairman of the usher board within the church.  Not only were her children wrong, but she was wrong for the way she handled the situation.  Her children went home and lied to her about what had taken place at the church.  She was willing to believe the worst from them, and instead of coming to find out what was going on, she came in accusing me and others of striking her children when no such thing had taken place.  If this had happened when I was a youth, I would have gotten my butt whipped before I left the church, then I would have been taken home to my parents and they would have whipped my butt again.  But you see, in today’s political correctness society, there are too many parents who refuse to correct their own children and will not allow anyone in the churches, schools or the community to do so.  Therefore, the youth’s attitude is you are not my parents and you can’t tell me what to do.  This is a sad commentary for our youth and it is a factor that is contributing to the youth violence in America today.

Another part of this problem of correcting children is some of the abuse that some parents have perpetuated upon their children that has caused the government to get more involved in our daily lives.  We parents are responsible for our children and we must shoulder that responsibility with love, understanding and patience.  Children can be a problem.  There is much peer pressure on them.  They want to fit in with their friends, therefore as a parent, we must try to understand their changing life style, and the growth hormones as they experienced adulthood.  We must treat them with respect, try and understand that they too do have problems and they may not always share those problems with us.  But we must always be willing to put our arms around them and daily tell them that we love them, even though we may not be having the kind of conversation we would like to have with them.  But I tell you that there is power in love.  When our youth can feel within themselves that they are loved, it brings a much different kind of respect from them.

Another one of our readers wrote and shared her story with us as to how she as a single parent is raising her daughter and preparing her for adulthood and to become a creative and productive member of this society.  Here is what she had to say; “I am trying to be here during my daughter’s childhood and teen years. I have chosen to sacrifice a more materialistic living in favor of being a stay at home mom. I’m available to my child when she comes home from school and stay available until she’s in bed at night. I find this helps immensely in our communication and the trust being built between us. We still have immense challenges, as I’m a single mom, but I’m so glad I made the decision to put her before materialism in our lives.”  (The Warrioress  Life of a female Blogger)  We encourage you to go by and read her writings.  You can reach her by clicking on this link:  http://lifeofafemalebiblewarrior.wordpress.com/

We also encourage you to share your story with us and we will include it in Part 3 of this series which we will post next week on Tuesday June 25, 2013.  Your story just might be the one that helps to encourage another parent to become a better parent or perhaps improve their parenting skills and even save a child’s life.

 

 

 

HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT

HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT

TEACHING CHILDREN ABOUT LOVE AND RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

TEACHING CHILDREN ABOUT LOVE AND RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

THERE IS ENOUGH BLAME TO GO AROUND 

Today we begin a four part series on raising loving and respectable children.  We invite each of you to share your thoughts and ideas, and we know that you do have lots of them and we will include as many of them as possible in this series.  We all can learn from each other and by sharing your experiences it might be just the one thing another parent could use to help teach their child respect and save their life.

We are living in very difficult times and raising Children is made more difficult for a variety of reasons and non-more so than the shrinking economy.  It is causing heart-aches, pain and stresses in a lot of families, and sometimes causes them to over react and make very bad decisions that have a negative effect on their children and family life.

Our Children are under a lot of pressure and they are acting it out in the homes, schools, streets and everywhere else with all sorts of violent acts.  When this begins to happen, people start point fingers and blaming others.  There is enough blame to go around when some say that it is liberalism that has caused the violence.  Others say that it is the removal of prayer from our schools.  Some say it is the steady stream of violence we see in the movies, on the nightly news cast, on all sorts of TV Programs and especially the video games.

There are still others who blame the government for overtaxing its citizens, and forcing parents to have to abandon their children for the workplace.

When it comes to our children using guns to settle their differences, there are those who would blame the gun manufacturers and the gun dealers.  But no where do we see anyone taking responsibility for what has happened.  Not the parents, schools, churches, business, government or the youth themselves.  Our U.S. Congress refuses to pass sensible Gun Laws that could be a help in stopping some of the Gun Violence, but No; everyone wants to place the blame on someone else.

It is time that we as parents begin to accept the major portion of responsibility and take control of our children’s lives and get the government out of our homes and bedrooms.  We as parents are responsible for raising our children and it does take the whole community to be involved and always willing to lend a helping hand.

Now I encourage each one of you to share some of your experiences in raising your own children and we will begin posting them in part two of PARENT’S RESPONSIBILITY.” Part Two will be posted on Thursday June 20, 2013.

 

 

FATHERS ROLE AS LEADERS IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY

FATHERS ROLE AS LEADERS IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY

WHY ARE FAMILIES BREAKING DOWN? PT-2

TRAVIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH CLEVELAND, GA. (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

TRAVIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH CLEVELAND, GA. (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

WRITTEN BY PASTOR TERRY COOMER                                                                                                 Elwood Bible Baptist Church, Elwood, Indiana 46036

THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR IN THE BREAKDOWN OF THE HOME IS FATHERS NOT FULFILLING THEIR BIBLICAL ROLE OF LEADERSHIP IN THE HOME. This is the most important reason for unhappy families.

God says, worship is to be led by the father. “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him” (Genesis 18:9).

Most fathers I know could care less. This is a wicked thing. There is more to being a father than just producing children. The lack of leadership by the father today in every area is the most important factor in the breakdown of the American home. I pray the Lord will give us more men like Joshua.

Joshua 24:14-15, “Now therefore fear the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: BUT AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE, WE WILL SERVE THE LORD.”

There has to be a consecration by dad. There is more to a marriage than just living together in a physical relationship.

Lack of godly male leadership brings about the disastrous consequences of rebellion, delinquency, and sexual promiscuity. Divorce is usually caused by a father not taking his Biblical responsibilities and is something God hates, (See Malachi 2:12-17. Matthew 19:5-6.)

The most important cause of divorce in America is the lack of proper, godly leadership by the father and husband. It is also the most frequent cause of children’s feelings of rejection, behavioral problems, and anxieties.  Ephesians 6:1-4. Notice in verse 4, “And ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” The word “wrath” means a strong desire to avenge. How does a father provoke a child to wrath? By not bringing him up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; Nurture means training with structure. Most fathers have no desire for the Word of God and they are raising angry vengeful children because they are not committed to training their children in spiritual principles as God commands. Of course, they cannot train the child if they are ignorant of God’s principles themselves. That is a picture of the American father.

David Blankenhorn in his 1995 book, Fatherless America,” says “the culture change from a stable, two parent home to the father’s abandonment of his responsibilities of marriage and parenting is America’s most urgent social problem. The father’s absence is the main reason for unhappy homes, many current social problems, and is a national crisis of our time.”

According to the National Fatherhood Institute, 40% of the children in the United States have not seen their father for a year! In the last 15 years “fatherless” children jumped from 10.2 million to 15.6 million. 70% of juveniles in detention centers and reformatories are children of fatherless homes. Statistics indicate that “violent criminals” are overwhelmingly males who grew up without a father’s leadership. This includes 60% of America’s rapists, 72% of adolescent murders, and 70% of long-term prison inmates. One out of every four high school seniors graduate functionally illiterate. It is more than a physical presence. There are many homes where a father is there, but that is all. They want all their needs fulfilled, but do not want to take the spiritual, godly, or normal leadership that God intended. Instead children grow up listening to their parents fight, cuss, yell, scream, spend money on all kinds of entertainment and material possessions trying to be happy.

The father’s failure to take responsibility and leadership in the home has created a valueless, unhappy, fractured home and society. This failure has had a devastating effect on our children and has spawned a multitude of wicked societal problems including delinquency, sexual promiscuity, drug use, and violence.

The family is in trouble in America because men fail to be the leaders God wants them to be. We desperately need to pray for the men of this country to do as God has commanded. The results of the men not obeying God have been disastrous. The great need is for men to repent of their sins, to really come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ, and then to be obedient to the commands of God from His Word. Men must be the leaders God desires them to be. May God help us to pray for the men of America.

LISTEN TO YOUR FATHER MY SON AND BE WISE

LISTEN TO YOUR FATHER MY SON AND BE WISE

THE MINDS' EYE BLACK AND WHITE IMAGE GALLERY PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS

THE MINDS’ EYE BLACK AND WHITE IMAGE GALLERY PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS

Listen, my son, be wise,
and steer your life on the right course.
 Do not spend time with heavy wine drinkers
or those who gorge themselves on meat.
 For both the drunk and the glutton will end up broke,
sleeping life away, and clothed in rags.

 Pay attention to your father—after all, he gave you life—
and don’t ignore your mother in her old age.
 Invest in truth, sock it away!
Never cash in wisdom, guidance, or insight.
 The parents of the right-living will celebrate;
yes, parents of children who make wise choices are happy.
So make your parents happy;
delight your mother—after all, she brought you into this world.

 My son, devote yourself to me fully.
Observe my ways, and follow my directions:
 Being drawn to a prostitute is like falling down into a deep well,
and being involved with a wicked woman is like descending into a narrow well.
You may never get out alive.
 She waits for you, ready to ambush you like a thief
and ready to multiply unfaithfulness among men.

 Who is wallowing in anguish? Who is full of sorrow?

THE WINE DRINKERS Whenever I wake up from this stupor,     I’ll have another drink!”

THE WINE DRINKERS Whenever I wake up from this stupor,
I’ll have another drink!”

Who has conflicts? Who has complaints?
Who has bruises and can’t remember where they came from?
Who has bloodshot eyes?
 You know who: those who stay up late finishing off the wine,
those who can’t stop savoring spiced wines.
 Look away from the enticing beauty of wine, the deep red hue;
ignore how it shimmers in the cup
and glides down your throat.
 Eventually, when you least expect it, it strikes like a snake;
it stings like viper venom.
 Your vision will blur, and you’ll imagine strange things;
you will say crazy, hurtful things and regret it later.
 You will reel and stagger as if caught on a wave of seasickness,
as a sailor who holds on to a mast for dear life.
 You will say, “They slapped me, but it didn’t hurt.
They beat me, and I didn’t feel a thing!
Whenever I wake up from this stupor,
I’ll have another drink!”

Proverb 23:19-35 The Voice

UNDERSTANDING A FATHERS’ HEART AS A LEADER

UNDERSTANDING A FATHERS’ HEART AS A LEADER

WILL FATHERS STAND UP AND BECOME GODLY LEADERS IN THEIR FAMILIES?

A FATHER AND SON MOMENT WITH PASTOR DAVIS AND HIS SON MAXIMILLION

A FATHER AND SON MOMENT WITH PASTOR DAVIS AND HIS SON MAXIMILLION

WRITTEN BY SHIRLEY RHODES

This is truly a very important question that most Fathers need to understand and ask, and then seek answers from God.  This is what the Word of God says to all Fathers.  “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.  (Ephesians 6:4 ESV)

Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6). Fathers, instruct children to “keep vigilant watch over their heart; that’s where life starts” (4:23).”

Too many fathers have no desire for the Word of God and they are raising angry vengeful children because they are not committed to training their children in spiritual principles as God commands.  Of course, they cannot train the child if they are ignorant of God’s principles themselves.  That is a picture of the American father as I see it today.

We know that sometimes fathers fail to accept the responsibility God has given them toward their wives and children.  Many fathers pursue their own selfish interests thus abandoning the role God has given them.

Whenever Fathers fail to fulfill their role of Godly Leadership, the responsibility for leading their children will wrongly pass to a child’s peer group, a school or even the television.  When an absent parent’s egoistic barked orders are met with resistance and rebellion, out of frustration and impatience a worldly Father might then even further discourage his children by cursing them.  Instead, every Father needs to accept the leadership roles God has given him.  This will require Fathers to possess a heart devoted to God, to show their children how to live and to model serving others through love.

Now let us take a closer look the Leadership role that a Father has been given and try to UNDERSTAND A FATHERS’ HEART. 

His strength encourages, his love guides; he is protector and provider; he instills wisdom by sharing his own life experiences. A father wears many hats while diligently seeking the best for all children, not just his own. UNDERSTANDING A FATHERS’ HEART allows us to see the wisdom God has given him so that he might serve as a light for those entrusted to his care. A real father seeks God for guidance before making decision that will affect a child in life. Children, if you don’t have that man in your life; always remember you have it in God, he is your Father.

UNDERSTANDING A FATHERS’ HEART is about understanding the person in that role who takes on the challenge of serving as a well-spring of resource and knowledge that can guide young hearts toward the road they will travel in life. It is a big responsibility, one not to be taken lightly, because in the eyes of God, children are precious beings. Teaching them about love will influence their relationships in life as they grow. A real father is expected to guide, discipline and lead by example while instilling the true meaning of character into those he lead.

Proverbs teaches much about parent child relationship and responsibilities which helps in understanding a fathers’ heart.  Fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge (Proverbs 1:7 MGS). My son, hear the instruction of your father; do not forsake the law of your mother for they will be a graceful ornament on your head and chains about your neck (verse 8, 9).

UNDERSTANDING A FATHERS’ HEART helps us to understand the charge in relation to obedience. Children are to do what their parents tell them, the promise is this, “Honor your father and mother so you will live a long life.” Fathers are not to exasperate their children by coming down hard on them, but take them by the hand and lead them in the way of the Master (Ephesians 6: 1-4 MGS).

A father with wisdom and understanding is an honor, a gift from God; he diligently shares wise teachings and encourages as he encounter struggles among his children. He is about pursuing his purpose in life as a teacher, leader, brother and most of all a father. Celebrate Fathers’ Day in a very special way; make “UNDERSTANDING A FATHERS’ HEART” your gift by letting someone you know or admire that they are appreciated for all they share. Be thankful to your heavenly Father for allowing you the opportunity to share in the blessing of earthly fathers.

“Many-a-father have traveled the road you’ve yet to travel.”  We send our Blessings to all Fathers that this week will encourage you to make an extra effort to be a Strong and Godly Father that will help your Children and all Children that God will send into your pathway to themselves become Godly Children.

HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY MOM SUNDAY AFTERNOON PRAISE SERVICE

HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY MOM SUNDAY AFTERNOON PRAISE SERVICE

WRITTEN BY SHIRLEY RHODES

A good woman is hard to find and worth far more than diamonds (Proverbs 1:10-31, MGS).

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in Fear-Of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her with praises.

Flowers are known as the reproductive organ in plants and when combined into a bouquet there’s beauty and sweet aroma to enjoy. This represents essence and strength of a Mothers’ Love.

GIVE MOTHER HER FLOWERS (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

GIVE MOTHER HER FLOWERS (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

This Mothers’ Day do something different and special for Mom; set a table for two, share in some good conversation, laugh and give her a big old fashion strong hug because she deserves it. Do not ever forget, “Mothers are a Gift to be treasured and that means your Mom is included.”

TEA FOR TWO (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

TEA FOR TWO (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

Remember, your Mother is many women; she is a teacher, she is a doctor, a lawyer, a business executive, a stay-at-home mom; the list is endless as to her capabilities. The role of Mother follows many paths and is done so in such a way that she is able to understand the needs of others. Strength, dignity, and grace are her badge of honor; she is adored by her family. Gods’ design for Mother is not determined by labels of who she is because he has created her for his purpose.  As she grow in wisdom and grace her beauty shines through as a tower of hope and strength for those who may not have as of yet mastered the skill.

MOTHER IS A WOMAN WHO PLAY MANY ROLES (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

MOTHER IS A WOMAN WHO PLAY MANY ROLES (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

Our Mothers’ worry about us in ways that we can never understand, while we are off during our own thing, mother is lying awake at night, silently praying to God to hold our hand, walk with us, keep us safe and bring us back home to them.  Click on this video clip and, REMEMBER!”

A Mother seeks answers when she asks questions:

When a Mother asks, “How can you say you love me?

How often do you call, write or text message?

How often do you ask if I’m well?

How often do you visit, sit and talk for “a spell?”

How often do you think to send flowers or a card?

Do you ever wonder if I worry about you?

Do you ever wonder if I’ve had sleepless nights because I’m concerned about you?

Do you ever wonder if I pray for you and keep you close to my heart?

She ask these questions because she is able to see that we live busy lives and have very little time to share. She ask these questions because  she  see through the eyes of a Mother who loves enough to set you free, but  loves unconditionally.  She is your Mother.  HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY MOM!

This is a song of praise by Kirk Franklin taken from my Gospel Praise Playlist.  It contains 30 plus songs of praise that are listed on my utube channel.  Click on the link below and subscribe to and listen to many great songs and teaching that are featured on my Channel. Click on playlist on the left side of the page and enjoy:  http://www.youtube.com/user/davistheteacher?feature=mhee

A TRIBUTE TO MOTHERS WHO HAVE LOST THEIR CHILDREN TO GUN VIOLENCE

A TRIBUTE TO MOTHERS WHO HAVE LOST THEIR CHILDREN TO GUN VIOLENCE

WRITTEN BY SHIRLEY RHODES

TRAGEDY IN NEWTOWN, CONNECTICUT PHOTO BY SHEER INVESTIGATION.COM 03

TRAGEDY IN NEWTOWN, CONNECTICUT PHOTO BY SHEER INVESTIGATION.COM 03

Just a few months ago, a deranged individual with an assault weapon walked into a school located in Newtown, Connecticut and took the lives of 26 young people.  Since then more than 3,900 Mothers’ have lost their children to gun violence and will not be able to hug their children this Mothers’ Day, nor receive a Mothers’ Day wish from their children.  This is truly a tragedy that none of us can comprehend unless we are one of those Mother’s that have lost a child to gun violence.

So many hearts have been broken; so many tears have been shed because the family chain has been broken. Gun violence has taken many young lives and those Mothers have come to know the meaning of shattered and broken.

For those Mothers who have experienced such tragedy and pain, let me encourage you as one Mother to another, please allow this Mothers’ Day to be a time of release and reflection. Take a moment and look around you and you will see your child in the elements of the world God has created.  Look at the flowers as they bloom and beacon you to come closer, see the beauty of the birds as they cross your path, excited and having fun with one another, see the brightness of the sun as the raise beams down upon your body, feel the gentle breeze of the wind as it sweeps across your face and you here in it a soft and sweet voice that says to you, “Hi Mommy, I love you, then you pause, look all around you, and say, I love you also baby!” Now embrace it as a memory of the child that once occupied your space.  Know that they are always there ready to wipe away the tear drop from your eyes and give you encouragement and strength to carry on and fight the good fight that will help others survive the tragedy that took their young, tender and precious lives.

Remember the words of Job: We are all adrift in the same boat: too few days, too many troubles. We spring up like wildflowers in the desert and then we wilt transit in the shadow of a cloud (Job 14: 1-2, MGS).

Allow the memories of your loved one to linger as long as you like but rest assured your child was blessed to you for a season and within that season take the memories and cherish them.

Allow yourself time to mourn and then embrace life as it is given each day because it is a gift that cannot be replaced.  God bless each Mother who have lost a child to violence and may your journey be one traveled in the assurance that at any given moment you will greet your loved one in a unique way, that’s how God have designed it. May you be blessed abundantly this Mother’s Day, 2013?

MOTHER'S DAY ROSE (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

MOTHER’S DAY ROSE (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME THE LESSON OF FORGIVENESS

MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME THE LESSON OF FORGIVENESS

A Mother’s Arms (Photo by Pastor Davis)

MY MOTHER was truly an inspiration to my soul.  Whenever I felt someone had hurt me, she would simply say, “Son, don’t hold a grudge against them, you must find in your heart the words to forgive them.”  I would say, “but Mom, it hurts, how can I forgive them, they hurt me.”  Son, if you truly want to stop the pain, you must release it and let it go, forgiveness is the only way to your personal peace.

MY MOTHER was a godly woman, she loved and feared the Lord, and she made sure that I understood what she meant when she said I must forgive those who would seek to do harm to me. Now let me share with you the lesson MY MOTHER taught me on FORGIVENESS.  She begin by saying, “Son if the LORD can forgive us of our sins, why do we have such a difficult time of forgiving others when we perceive them to have done us wrong?  Getting rid of our heart aches and pains begins with us.  We must learn to free ourselves of all the negative baggage we carry around each and every day with our unforgiving spirit.

FORGIVENESS works the miracle of change.  When Lincoln was asked why he did not destroy his enemies, he replied:  “If I make my enemies my friends, don’t I then destroy them?”  When you forgive you change others and you change yourself.  You change discord to harmony.

FORGIVENESS should span the years.  You should first forgive yourself for the wrongs you’ve done to yourself and others, for the mistakes you’ve made.  Then you should forgive and bless all those who have wronged you during your lifetime.  Thus you release others and you release yourself.  You break the chains of regret and remorse that bind you.  You free your mind from the burdens of the past so you may walk victoriously into the future.

FORGIVENESS works two ways.  You must forgive to be forgiven.  “He who cannot forgive others,” wrote Edward Herbert, “breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass; for every man has the need to be forgiven.”

FORGIVENESS should become a habit.  When THE MASTER was asked how often we should forgive, he answered: “Until SEVENTY TIMES SEVEN.”  He who forgives to infinity will never hate.

FORGIVENESS should start now.  Putting off forgiving only deepens the wound.  Clinging to bitterness postpones happiness.  Life is short, time is fleeting.  Today is the day to forgive.

FORGIVENESS is the way to personal peace.  It is performing mental surgery in yourself, probing deep within to remove hurts, grudges and resentments.  It is forgetting wrongs as though they had never been.  It is flooding your mind with the powerful medicine of forgiveness that cleanses and heals.  It is discovering a serenity you’ve never known before.

Then with her big beautiful brown eyes, looking and penetrating deep into my soul, the softness of her voice changing, she said, “you may not understand all that I am telling you at this moment, but when the time is right it will all come to you and you will get it and use it to help your own children and others to understand that we all must learn the art of forgiveness.

So on this Mother’s Day weekend, I salute My Beloved Mother for teaching me the art of forgiveness.

LESSONS LEARNED FROM MY MOTHER

LESSONS LEARNED FROM MY MOTHER

WRITTEN BY SHIRLEY RHODES

Photo of Me and My Mother

Photo of Me and My Mother

 

I see my mother as a Spirit created by God with purpose; a tower of strength, patience, and humbleness.  She selflessly met the needs of family as well as others whom she encountered.  Her home was one with plenty of activity as children found solace as part of the family.  She never turned away anyone who came to visit.  She was always willing to share of her bounty.  She was a disciplinarian, a firm glance with eyes that could see the truth in you.  There was no way to avoid issues you may have thought private, it was almost like she was a mind reader.  She always offered encouraging words to others while pushing her own children to move beyond their own capabilities.  She had a heart that loved you no matter what she saw on your face or heard from your lips.  She would gently instruct and give guidance to all children of the community.  Her large heart was so full of the lives of others, held dear with barely enough room for herself in there.  Her legacy today is remembered by those who had the opportunity to meet her and her love will always guide us as a family to do what’s right, simply because she was a living example of godliness.  She was my Mother, my friend and I loved her dearly.  Happy Mothers’ Day Mom, I know you are watching.

What about you, what are some of the lessons you have learned from your Mother that you would like to share with others?  Just click into the comment box below, or you can email me at:  davismbyarsjr@gmail.com  I respond to all my emails.  May God add a blessing to all the Mothers of this world?  You are so unique and will always hold a special place in all our hearts here at this Ministry.  We love you and truly do appreciate you, and will always be lifting you up that others may see the light of God shining from within you.  May Gods’ Peace be with you throughout this Special Mothers’ Day Week Celebration in your honor?

 

WILL YOU JOIN OUR WEEK LONG CELEBRATION HONORING THE MOTHERS OF THIS WORLD?

WILL YOU JOIN OUR WEEK LONG CELEBRATION HONORING THE MOTHERS OF THIS WORLD?

A bouquet of Red Roses for your Mother (Photo by Pastor Davis)

A bouquet of Red Roses for your Mother (Photo by Pastor Davis)

Let me remind you that beginning Monday Morning, we will begin a weeklong celebration service honoring our dear Mothers from around the globe.  Please join with us each day and share your thoughts and prayers with one of our most precious resources and that is our Mothers.  For the Bible teaches us to honor our Mothers that our days will be long upon this earth.  Each one of you can be a part of this celebration by returning here daily and sharing a word with our tens of thousands readers from all over the world.  In our comment section just give a big shout out to some of the thousands of Mothers that will be reading these articles daily. One of them could be your very own Mother.  Help us to lift the Spirits of our Mothers who have sacrificed so much that we may enjoy the fruits of this world.  I thank you for your participation in our Week long Celebration and Honor of our very Beautiful, Sweet and Loving Mothers.  May God add a blessing to each one of you for what you will bring to the Spiritual Table in honor of our Mothers!

A FAMILY DIVIDED AGAINST ITSELF IS DESTINED TO FAILURE

A FAMILY DIVIDED AGAINST ITSELF IS DESTINED TO FAILURE

THE BYARS FAMILY CREATED BY GOD  (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

THE BYARS FAMILY CREATED BY GOD (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

We have entered a brand new year, the old, we have left behind.  All things new lie ahead, and therefore present us with our greatest challenges of all time.  The question then becomes, “how do we solve our family problems in this new year that divided our family in the old year?”  This is a very important question that must be placed at the head of our list of problems to be resolved in 2013, but resolve them we must, because, “A FAMILY DIVIDED AGAINST ITSELF IS DESTINED TO FAILURE!”

Satan is our greatest enemy, and he is continuing his work of divide and conquers.  He knows that families, a church are a business that is divided against its self eventually destroys itself from within.  Therefore, every opportunity he gets, he pushes our hot buttons to make us war against each other.

The time has come for us to learn to lean and depend on the one who has already defeated Satan, to show

LADY WISDOM TRUTH-BE ENCOURAGED (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

LADY WISDOM TRUTH-BE ENCOURAGED (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

us the way of bringing cohesiveness into our families that will triumph over the evilspirits that have divided us in the past.  We are victories, because God has given us the victory to lead our families to victory in 2013.  No weapon formed against us shall prosper.  That means no matter what Satan attempts to do with his limited powers by pitting one member of the family against another member, if we are leaning, depending and trusting in God, Satan is doomed and we can return our families to greatness by knowing the truth.  The bible teaches us in John 8:32 this simple message, “Know the truth and the truth will set you FREE.”

Leaders within the families must stand strong, processing a strong moral character and not comprise their moral integrity for the evil that Satan will present to them.  The Pharisees were a perfect example of presenting division within the family, and Jesus was the perfect example of a leader who presented a strong moral character and showed us the standards by which we must stand on to be a great leader for our familiesJesus said to them, “Look at the proud! They trust in themselves, and their lives are crooked. But the righteous will live by their faithfulness to GodWealth is treacherous, and the arrogant are never at rest. They open their mouths as wide as the grave, and like death, they are never satisfied. In their greed they have gathered up many nations and swallowed many peoples.  (Habakkuk 2:4-5 NLT)

BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED LEADERS IN THE FAMILY

BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED LEADERS IN THE FAMILY

As a leader in our families, our job is to be a servant leader.  Follow the example of Jesus and become a humble servant and serve all humanityFamily members will present you with some of the greatest challenges you will ever encounter.  But you must know how to overcome the feuding by following the example of JesusJesus knew Satan’s strategies and just how he would apply them to bring about division within the familyJesus said to them,Any kingdom divided by civil war is doomed. A town or family splintered by feuding will fall apart. And if Satan is casting out Satan, he is divided and fighting against himself. His own kingdom will not survive. (Matthew 12:25-26 NLT)

Your strong moral character must be the example in which the family in 2013 will rally around and find their moral compass to move towards the purpose and destination that God has already laid out for them.  Remember, just as a good tree bears good fruit and a diseased tree bears inedible fruit, so the fruits of a person’s life will show the quality of his or her characterFruit is a comprehensive word, referring to teaching, character, and action.  Our character is revealed by our conduct.

We have ministered this word to you today from a position of PEACE, PURPOSE, POWER and PROSPERITY.  We encourage you to think globally as you work locally to bring about a change within the family in 2013.  Making it stronger, more cohesive and less divisively.  Empowering it with love, growing it with a purpose, as God blesses you, moles you and shapes you into a powerful, yet humble servant that is capable of moving the family into the realm of possibilities and bringing about the prosperity that is desired for the family in 2013.  I remain your brother in CHRIST JESUS, PASTOR DAVIS/MASTER TEACHER!

Remember, “A FAMILY DIVIDED AGAINST ITSELF IS DESTINED TO FAILURE”  Therefore, the time to bring about a change in family unity is now.

 

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE LEADERSHIP AND GROWTH OF GODLY FAMILIES (PART 2)

Words have a power all their own

Words have a power all their own (Photo credit: Lynne Hand)

WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE LEADERSHIP AND GROWTH OF GODLY FAMILIES (PART 2)

Why Are Families Breaking Down?  

Written by Pastor Terry Coomer Elwood Bible Baptist Church, Elwood, Indiana 46036

 Joshua 24:14-15 “Now therefore fear the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you this day whom you will serve: whether the gods of the Amorites in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

I am greatly burdened about the family in America. The direction we are going today is total destruction. There are many reasons for this. We live in a day when words like love, commitment, responsibility, compassion, faith, church, righteousness, common sense, God, the Word of God, mean virtually nothing. I believe that much of that is due to the breakdown of the family.

Folks, the Bible strongly emphasize the family. Today, if you try to encourage a family to do as God has commanded, you will hear comments like “that church or pastor is weird, strict, legalistic, or a cult.” Most of these people have no idea what a cult is and are too spiritually ignorant to see the breakdown that is affecting their family.

The weakness of the family today is the lack of knowledge of the Word of God and an unwillingness to obey the Word of God. 2 Timothy 3:15 says that Timothy knew the holy scriptures “from a child.” It is important for our children to know the Word of God. It takes parents who are willing to make the commitment to study the Word of God and then to teach it to their children. A child must learn to have a relationship with God through His Word. A family can never be right with God as long as the parents are not having a relationship with God through His Word.

The family is a divine creation. Genesis 1:27-28, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them; and God said unto them, Be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”

The family was created before the church. The family is a unit. Certainly, the family affects the church. The family is a divine institution. Exodus 20:12 “Honor thy father and mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.”

I want you to notice something very important here, “father and mother” is a unit. It is important to understand that there is fidelity in that unit.

The family is important in the eyes of God, especially a godly family, which is rare today. (See Ephesians 6:22-33.)

How far away have we gotten from a godly family today? How far are we away from what the Word of God says on this issue? Unfortunately, very far. It is like night and day. The church today has done a miserable job. Most pastors are under tremendous pressure today to compromise the Word of God for entertainment. Many do compromise because they are afraid they will lose people. Many Independent Baptist Church bulletins look like an airline flight and departure schedule. The less time we can give to the Bible the more the average Christian likes it. They believe that activities make them spiritual rather than a relationship with God through His Word. Many Pastors seek to find out what works to draw a crowd rather than what is right. You have homes that are running themselves to death thinking they are doing the work of God.

Many churches today have ungodly music to appeal to the flesh so they can get a crowd. They cancel services where the word of God should be preached so they can have a southern gospel sing. These people do not worship God, they worship music and activities. It is nothing more than idolatry. Then they wonder why their kids grow up to live wicked, immoral, ungodly lives and have no desire for spiritual things. Divorce is rampant and we have many people living after the lusts of the flesh right in the church ministry. 2 Timothy 4:3 warns that “the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears.” Folks, that time is now! You have people today running from church to church until they can hear it like they want it rather than what God really says. The way to build godly families is to have a good church that preaches the Word of God and stands for it. The parents who attend that church must desire the Word of God and take the time and have the commitment themselves to study the Word so they can teach the Word to their children.

I looked at some statistics for America. The numbers are alarming:

1.   Divorces granted 1970–708,000, 1980–1,170,000 up 65%
2.   Unmarried couples 1970–523,000, 1980–1,346,000 up 157%
3.   Persons living alone 1970–10,851,000, 1980–17,202,000 up 58.5%
4.   Children living with two parents 1970–58,926,000, 1980–48,295,000 down 18%
5.   Children living with one parent 1970–8,230,000, 1980–11,528,000 up 40.1%
6.   Families with both husband and wife working 1970–20,327,000, 1980–24,253,000 up 19.4%

These statistics reveal some serious problems that we are facing in the family, and these numbers were from a few years ago and are much worse now.

THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR IN THE BREAKDOWN OF THE HOME IS FATHERS NOT FULFILLING THEIR BIBLICAL ROLE OF LEADERSHIP IN THE HOME. This is the most important reason for unhappy families.

God says, worship is to be led by the father. “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord to do justice and judgement; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him” (Genesis 18:9).

Most fathers I know could care less. This is a wicked thing. There is more to being a father than just producing children. The lack of leadership by the father today in every area is the most important factor in the breakdown of the American home. I pray the Lord will give us more men like Joshua.

Joshua 24:14-15, “Now therefore fear the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: BUT AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE, WE WILL SERVE THE LORD.”

There has to be a consecration by dad. There is more to a marriage than just living together in a physical relationship.

Lack of godly male leadership brings about the disastrous consequences of rebellion, delinquency, and sexual promiscuity. Divorce is usually caused by a father not taking his Biblical responsibilities and is something God hates, (See Malachi 2:12-17. Matthew 19:5-6.)

The most important cause of divorce in America is the lack of proper, godly leadership by the father and husband. It is also the most frequent cause of children’s feelings of rejection, behavioral problems, and anxieties.  Ephesians 6:1-4. Notice in verse 4, “And ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” The word “wrath” means a strong desire to avenge. How does a father provoke a child to wrath? By not bringing him up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Nurture means training with structure. Most fathers have no desire for the Word of God and they are raising angry vengeful children because they are not committed to training their children in spiritual principles as God commands. Of course, they cannot train the child if they are ignorant of God’s principles themselves. That is a picture of the American father.

David Blankenhorn in his 1995 book, “Fatherless America,” says “the culture change from a stable, two parent home to the father’s abandonment of his responsibilities of marriage and parenting is America’s most urgent social problem. The father’s absence is the main reason for unhappy homes, many current social problems, and is a national crisis of our time.”

According to the National Fatherhood Institute, 40% of the children in the United States have not seen their father for a year! In the last 15 years “fatherless” children jumped from 10.2 million to 15.6 million. 70% of juveniles in detention centers and reformatories are children of fatherless homes. Statistics indicate that “violent criminals” are overwhelmingly males who grew up without a father’s leadership. This includes 60% of America’s rapists, 72% of adolescent murders, and 70% of long-term prison inmates. One out of every four high school seniors graduate functionally illiterate. It is more than a physical presence. There are many homes where a father is there, but that is all. They want all their needs fulfilled, but do not want to take the spiritual, godly, or normal leadership that God intended. Instead children grow up listening to their parents fight, cuss, yell, scream, spend money on all kinds of entertainment and material possessions trying to be happy.

The father’s failure to take responsibility and leadership in the home has created a valueless, unhappy, fractured home and society. This failure has had a devastating effect on our children and has spawned a multitude of wicked societal problems including delinquency, sexual promiscuity, drug use, and violence.

The family is in trouble in America because men fail to be the leaders God wants them to be. We desperately need to pray for the men of this country to do as God has commanded. The results of the men not obeying God have been disastrous. The great need is for men to repent of their sins, to really come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ, and then to be obedient to the commands of God from His Word. Men must be the leaders God desires them to be. May God help us to pray for the men of America.

HOW SUBSTANCE ABUSE AND VIOLENCE DESTROY FAMILIES PART TWO

HOW SUBSTANCE ABUSE AND VIOLENCE DESTROY FAMILIES PART TWO

God‘s Marvelous Light (photo by Pastor Davis)

By Shirley Rhodes

LIVING IN THE GROWTH PROCESS OF GOD’S MARVELOUS LIGHT

Substance abuse is destroying our families, communities and country in general, and in lesson one as many of the lesson we share with you here, we do so in order that all of us may come into God’s marvelous light and help break this evil spirit that is penetrating the hearts and minds of too many of our family members.  In the first lesson of this format we presented you with three points to consider:

1.     The beginning: Growth process of children

2.     Breaking down of the physical body

3.     Social influence (social status)

Now let us consider the facts below; from the very beginning God already had a plan for our lives, and our parents were no accident, they were a chosen vessel. Many may question,” Why did I end up with parents that never knew me because they themselves were caught up in the cycle of abuse,” “how did I end up in such an environment?” I’m not sure how to answer such questions, yet the thought is like a plague. It seems as if those born under such circumstances never really had a chance for a better or different life, many are victims of their environment.

As Christians, how do we address such questions? A child is supposed to be nurtured and loved, provided the essentials of life to survive, yet we turn our heads as if it’s not me or my child so it’s not my problem. Children are left to the streets and many find their own way carving friendships that say you are a part of us. The environment may be one that’s gang related, drug infested and no particular rules of society are acknowledged. These same children only know the ways of the street and have little respect for those who attempt to show them that there is another way. Some are so hardened by the time they reach preteen years they either end up in jail or dead.

Many use drugs simply because for them that is their life. How do we turn the tide of our young people? How do we reach adults ravaged by the effects of daily drug use? It may not be your problem but at some point these children become adults, will they follow the same cycle before them or is there a way to reach them before it’s too late to intervene. Parents, Christians, Neighbors, Friends, society as a whole must consider the plight of a child from the very beginning, God has a plan for their life, and it does not have to be wasted. Then again we may ask ourselves, “where do we begin and what direction do we take to reverse the curse?

Social status for some people is what they crave and work to obtain, and how its’ obtained, as well as how they get there matters. While seeking worldly status, along with our many treasures, how often do we stop or slow down long enough to lift a sister or brother pressed down by the hardness of life. Many will say they had a choice and the life they live is what they have chosen, is that really truth? Social status sometimes places us in an environment where we eventually conform to what surrounds us. Our social circle may be one where alcohol and drugs are a part of who we become in order to fit in. Many often find themselves caught up in a web so tight they’re not able to find their way out. When continuing on this course they see no more than just the moment and that moment can end up being very dark.

Consider the teachings of Jesus, “Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust corrupt, where thieves break through and steal; for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. The light of the body is the eye and if your eye is clear, the whole body shall be full of light. If your eye is foggy, your whole body shall be full of darkness, how terrible is that darkness.” (Matthew 6: 19, 21-23 KJV). So as Christians, family and friends, let’s be conscious of the needs of our children, our families, and society as a whole while we adapt and follow the pattern Jesus has given for living productive lives, as we LEARN TO LIVE IN THE GROWTH PROCESS OF GOD’S MARVELOUS LIGHT.

 

HOW SUBSTANCE ABUSE AND VIOLENCE DESTROY FAMILIES

HOW SUBSTANCE ABUSE AND VIOLENCE DESTROY FAMILIES

Drug Abuser 02

By Shirley Rhodes

Are you or someone you know caught up in the cesspool of substance abuse and violence, be it physical, mental, or social?  The point of interest here is abuse and its’ effects physically, mentally, spiritually and financially. Though substance abuse is not defined by a certain group of people, in some way many lives are destroyed due to lack of knowledge, relationships and awareness. Determining the path that takes one on a journey, they may or may not be able to find their way back is a long and enduring process, just getting the individual to admit they have a problem and eventually deciding to seek help.

Not everyone have access to what they need for recovery and often feel that where they find themselves is their destiny. So, we as a society, family, friend must ask ourselves, how did this happen, what caused our loved one to choose this course in life? It all starts somewhere; there is a reason, a beginning. When we take time and evaluate the situation, the answer may actually be surprising.  Now let us begin by taking a hard look at three key points of interest.

  1. 1.     The beginning: Growth process of children
  2. 2.     Breaking down of the physical body
  3. 3.     Social influence (social status)

We as a community of believers must take an interest in all aspects of the lives of our families if we are to survive as a community.  Yes, that process begins with each one of us, and it begins as a growth process with our children.  The starting point for each of us is entering into the presence of Jesus and we can do this by saying, “God, you’re my refuge, I trust in you and I’m safe!”

That’s right—he rescues you from hidden traps, shields you from deadly hazards. His huge outstretched arms protect you—under them you’re perfectly safe, his arms fend off all harm.

The Lion of the tribe of Judah (photo by Pastor Davis)

Fear nothing—not wild wolves in the night and flying arrows in the day. Not disease that prowls through the darkness, not disaster that erupts at high noon. Even though others succumb all around, drop like flies right and left, no harm will ever graze you.  You’ll stand untouched, watch it all from a distance, and watch the wicked turn into corpses. Yes, because God is your refuge, the High God your very own home. Evil can’t get close to you; harm can’t get through the door. He ordered his angels to guard you wherever you go. If you stumble, they’ll catch you; their job is to keep you from falling. You walk unharmed among lions and snakes, and kick young lions and serpents from the path.

“If you will hold on to me for dear life,” says God; I’ll get you out of trouble, I’ll give you the best of care if you only get to know and trust me. Call me and I’ll answer, be at your side in bad times. I’ll rescue you, I’ll give you long life, give you a long drink of salvation!” Psalm 91:1-16 (Mgs)

Children of God, the time has come for all of us to wake up and look around, be observant, there is trouble in the land, be attuned to each other.  Know that God has a plan for your life and He is working all things out.  We must come together as a family, as a community of believers and take responsibility for what is happening with our children, and  begin to demonstrate to them that there is a better way of life other than substance abuse and violence which is rampant in our communities;  it all begins with each of us as believers.  We must grow in God’s grace as we demonstrate to others, how they must adapt to the right way of living in this world and that is God’s way.  Our next lesson will continue to build on this one by stressing the GROWTH PROCESS of overcoming SUBSTANCE ABUSE, and VIOLENCE in our lives and the lives of our families.

 

A SELF DISCIPLINE WOMAN TEACHES THE ART OF LEADERSHIP AS A PROVERB 31 WOMAN

A SELF DISCIPLINE WOMAN TEACHES THE ART OF LEADERSHIP AS A PROVERB 31 WOMAN

Robin Wilson Successful Business Woman and A Proverb 31 Woman

HOW NOT TO BE UNDERVALUED, MARGINALIZED AND UNAPPRECIATED

Women in today’s society are UNDERVALUED, MARGINALIZED and UNAPPRECIATED, although they play a major role in all of our lives day in and day out.  In this lesson today, we want to demonstrate how they are at the forefront in every aspect of our lives teaching us how they use SELF-DISCIPLINE to instill LEADERSHIP in their FAMILIES and the MARKET PLACE, at the same time providing great value to the family’s net worth, and we still UNDERVALUE what they bring to the table, and do not reward them equally for their many gifts, by doing this we continue to MARGINALIZE their talents and show just how much they are truly UNAPPRECIATED.  

Successful Business Woman

Let us first define SELF-DISCIPLINE and how it works:  We will define it here simply as that quality that allows a person to do what needs to be done when he or she doesn’t feel like doing it:  Toughing it out, risking an opinion, making a decision when everyone else is paralyzed by uncertainty.  In many situations other people know what to do, but are too tired or afraid or apathetic to act.  That’s when someone who is equally tired and equally afraid steps forward and does what’s needed.  This person has that elusive quality called SELF-DISCIPLINE.  And whether from a formal or informal position in the organization, that person provides LEADERSHIP.

From that basic working definition we will look at an example of a woman who exhibited great SELF-DISCIPLINE in her own life, and reaped the rewards of her efforts.  She may be a literal woman, or she may be Wisdom personified.  Either way she teaches some important things about SELF-DISCIPLINE and LEADERSHIP.   Now as you read this poem, we encourage you to think about how you can integrate some of her charters traits into your own life as a leader in your family or business.

In Proverb’s 31, KING SOLOMON wrote the following poem about a WIFE of NOBLE CHARACTER and this is the person we are using to demonstrate our message today.  King Solomon said:

She is a wife of noble character who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,

She is a woman of Humility

and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household

and portions for her maidens.
She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
She puts her hands to the distaff,

A Proverb 31 woman is a Woman of Prayer

and her hands hold the spindle.
She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.[
She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

Composure, presence of mind, cool headedness, patience, self-possession, restraint—only a few people display these qualities, and those who do usually make effective leaders.  This woman of NOBLE CHARACTER, displayed all of them, and in doing so, taught us a valuable lesson in what it really means to be placed in a LEADERSHIP POSITION and earn respect, never to be UNDERVALUED, MARGINALIZED and UNAPPRECIATED.  Therefore, if you want to be an effective leader, identify the habits you need to build into your life so you can lead with diligence—habits such as physical fitness, balance between work and home, financial and personal accountability, proactively in the workplace, and the like.  It is now time for you to strap on your shoes and get going.  Disciplined habits will give you the momentum you need to not only move forward, but also to run your earthly race with strength and purpose, and achieve success as a true visionary leader only can.

We encourage you to think deeply on this message, eat and drink it daily for your spiritual meals over the next 90 days, and when you do this in the right way you will have learned the art of, “HOW NOT TO BE UNDERVALUED, MARGINALIZED AND UNAPPRECIATED!”

PORTRAIT OF A FATHER

PORTRAIT OF A FATHER

Pastor Davis with Father Deacon Davis Byars Sr. Age 95 and still going strong

BY MINISTER SHIRLEY RHODES

The PORTRAIT OF A FATHER is one of a special gift, because God has chosen them and placed them in charge of the family as a nurturer and provider.  FATHERS’ are seen as the strong tower, the leader and diligently goes about seeking how to provide the many necessities essential to the family’s growth. Throughout time FATHERS’ have always sheltered their inner emotions simply because that is how society dictates. Life now paints a different picture for today’s FATHER.

When we think of a FATHER we think of the beginning (the creation) and know that he was created for a purpose and that purpose was for God’s enjoyment. God formed Man out of the dirt from the ground and blew into his nostrils the breath of life. The Man became a living soul! Genesis 2:7. God made a covenant with Abraham when he was ninety-nine years old, he said, “This is my covenant with you: You’ll be the FATHER of many nations, I’ll make nations from you, a covenant that includes your descendants, a covenant that goes on and on and on, a covenant that commits me to be your God and the God of your descendants. (Genesis 17:3-8 Mgs)

Today’s FATHER displays a sense of humor and honesty. They are diligently seeking how to be better at their assignment as a Father.  As fathers’ they should strive to build and maintain strong bonds with those entrusted to their care. THE PORTRAIT OF A FATHER should be seen as one of showing honor, humor, honesty, caring, courage, character, grace, guidance while setting boundaries for appropriate behavior within the family. He should be one whom children look-up to as a role model as he follow the rule to love every-one.

The Bible tells us that, “The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way.  Though he falls, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.” (Psalm 37:23-24 KJV).  Therefore, let us understand that a FATHER can and will make mistakes as he seeks to lead his family in the path that God has set out for him to do so.

Now listen to the words of Thomas More, he says, “Family life is full of major and minor crises—the ups and downs of health, success and failure—and all kinds of characters. It is tied to places and events and histories. With all of these felt details, life etches itself into memory and personality. It’s difficult to imagine anything more nourishing to the soul.”

As Fathers’ day approaches let’s set aside any differences we may have and express love and gratitude for all fathers, a role not to be taken lightly and as you do so, remember these very important words:  “And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail. And your ancient ruins shall be rebuilt; you shall raise up the foundations of many generations; you shall be called the repairer of the breach, the restorer of streets to dwell in.  (Isaiah 58:11-12ESV).

Oh! Teach us to live well! Let your servants see what you’re best at—the ways you rule your children. And let the loveliness of our Lord, our God, rest on us, confirming the work we do. (Psalm 90:12-17).

The PORTRAIT OF A FATHER is one that none of us should take lightly.  Let us lift up our eyes towards heaven and thank God, our HEAVENLY FATHER who has given us this opportunity to be a part of this earthly celebration this weekend to salute and honor all FATHERS who have stood the test of time and given of themselves to be FATHERS in spite of the many trials and tribulations they have had to endure.

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY TO ALL FATHERS THROUGHOUT THE WORLD AND MAY THE PEACE, LOVE AND JOY OF GOD OUR FATHER FILL YOUR HEARTS WITH MUCH JOY AND PEACE ON THIS SPECIAL FATHER’S DAY!

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