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FATHERS ROLE AS LEADERS IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY

FATHERS ROLE AS LEADERS IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY

WHY ARE FAMILIES BREAKING DOWN? 

TRAVIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH CLEVELAND, GA. (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

TRAVIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH CLEVELAND, GA. (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

WRITTEN BY PASTOR TERRY COOMER                                                                                                 Elwood Bible Baptist Church, Elwood, Indiana 46036

THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR IN THE BREAKDOWN OF THE HOME IS FATHERS NOT FULFILLING THEIR BIBLICAL ROLE OF LEADERSHIP IN THE HOME. This is the most important reason for unhappy families.

God says, worship is to be led by the father. “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him” (Genesis 18:9).

Most fathers I know could care less. This is a wicked thing. There is more to being a father than just producing children. The lack of leadership by the father today in every area is the most important factor in the breakdown of the American home. I pray the Lord will give us more men like Joshua.

Joshua 24:14-15, “Now therefore fear the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: BUT AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE, WE WILL SERVE THE LORD.”

There has to be a consecration by dad. There is more to a marriage than just living together in a physical relationship.

Lack of godly male leadership brings about the disastrous consequences of rebellion, delinquency, and sexual promiscuity. Divorce is usually caused by a father not taking his Biblical responsibilities and is something God hates, (See Malachi 2:12-17. Matthew 19:5-6.)

The most important cause of divorce in America is the lack of proper, godly leadership by the father and husband. It is also the most frequent cause of children’s feelings of rejection, behavioral problems, and anxieties.  Ephesians 6:1-4. Notice in verse 4, “And ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” The word “wrath” means a strong desire to avenge. How does a father provoke a child to wrath? By not bringing him up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; Nurture means training with structure. Most fathers have no desire for the Word of God and they are raising angry vengeful children because they are not committed to training their children in spiritual principles as God commands. Of course, they cannot train the child if they are ignorant of God’s principles themselves. That is a picture of the American father.

David Blankenhorn in his 1995 book, Fatherless America,” says “the culture change from a stable, two parent home to the father’s abandonment of his responsibilities of marriage and parenting is America’s most urgent social problem. The father’s absence is the main reason for unhappy homes, many current social problems, and is a national crisis of our time.”

According to the National Fatherhood Institute, 40% of the children in the United States have not seen their father for a year! In the last 15 years “fatherless” children jumped from 10.2 million to 15.6 million. 70% of juveniles in detention centers and reformatories are children of fatherless homes. Statistics indicate that “violent criminals” are overwhelmingly males who grew up without a father’s leadership. This includes 60% of America’s rapists, 72% of adolescent murders, and 70% of long-term prison inmates. One out of every four high school seniors graduate functionally illiterate. It is more than a physical presence. There are many homes where a father is there, but that is all. They want all their needs fulfilled, but do not want to take the spiritual, godly, or normal leadership that God intended. Instead children grow up listening to their parents fight, cuss, yell, scream, spend money on all kinds of entertainment and material possessions trying to be happy.

The father’s failure to take responsibility and leadership in the home has created a valueless, unhappy, fractured home and society. This failure has had a devastating effect on our children and has spawned a multitude of wicked societal problems including delinquency, sexual promiscuity, drug use, and violence.

The family is in trouble in America because men fail to be the leaders God wants them to be. We desperately need to pray for the men of this country to do as God has commanded. The results of the men not obeying God have been disastrous. The great need is for men to repent of their sins, to really come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ, and then to be obedient to the commands of God from His Word. Men must be the leaders God desires them to be. May God help us to pray for the men of America.

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MOTHERS’ DAY WEEKEND SPECIAL PRAISE SERVICE

MOTHERS’ DAY WEEKEND SPECIAL PRAISE SERVICE

WRITTEN BY SHIRLEY RHODES

A good woman is hard to find and worth far more than diamonds (Proverbs 1:10-31, MGS).

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in Fear-Of-God. Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her with praises.

Flowers are known as the reproductive organ in plants and when combined into a bouquet there’s beauty and sweet aroma to enjoy. This represents essence and strength of a Mothers’ Love.

GIVE MOTHER HER FLOWERS (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

GIVE MOTHER HER FLOWERS (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

This Mothers’ Day do something different and special for Mom; set a table for two, share in some good conversation, laugh and give her a big old fashion strong hug because she deserves it. Do not ever forget, “Mothers are a Gift to be treasured and that means your Mom is included.”

TEA FOR TWO (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

TEA FOR TWO (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

Remember, your Mother is many women; she is a teacher, she is a doctor, a lawyer, a business executive, a stay-at-home mom; the list is endless as to her capabilities. The role of Mother follows many paths and is done so in such a way that she is able to understand the needs of others. Strength, dignity, and grace are her badge of honor; she is adored by her family. Gods’ design for Mother is not determined by labels of who she is because he has created her for his purpose.  As she grow in wisdom and grace her beauty shines through as a tower of hope and strength for those who may not have as of yet mastered the skill.

MOTHER IS A WOMAN WHO PLAY MANY ROLES (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

MOTHER IS A WOMAN WHO PLAY MANY ROLES (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

Our Mothers’ worry about us in ways that we can never understand, while we are off during our own thing, mother is lying awake at night, silently praying to God to hold our hand, walk with us, keep us safe and bring us back home to them.  Click on this video clip and, REMEMBER!”

A Mother seeks answers when she asks questions:

When a Mother asks, “How can you say you love me?

How often do you call, write or text message?

How often do you ask if I’m well?

How often do you visit, sit and talk for “a spell?”

How often do you think to send flowers or a card?

Do you ever wonder if I worry about you?

Do you ever wonder if I’ve had sleepless nights because I’m concerned about you?

Do you ever wonder if I pray for you and keep you close to my heart?

She ask these questions because she is able to see that we live busy lives and have very little time to share. She ask these questions because  she  see through the eyes of a Mother who loves enough to set you free, but  loves unconditionally.  She is your Mother.  HAPPY MOTHERS’ DAY MOM!

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Thank you for visiting with us, we will be featuring a special Mother’s Day Celebration Service all weekend long. So please come back often, receive your blessing and then share what you have receive here with others so that they too may receive theirs.  It is all about love, the love, faith and power of a Mother, your Mother, my Mother, all of our Mothers are those special creatures that has birthed us into this world.

MY MAXIMIZED PRAYER BLESSING FOR THIS LABOR DAY

MY MAXIMIZED PRAYER BLESSING FOR THIS LABOR DAY 

THE LORD PRAYER GARDEN (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

THE LORD PRAYER GARDEN (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

 

Most Holy God, our Heavenly Father, we have truly been blessed to see and experience the dawn of a brand new day.  Time marches on and waits for no one.  For those of us who have received your supernatural blessings to be among the living and have the opportunity to serve a living God, we thank you and rejoice in this awesome opportunity to serve you and enjoy the great abundance of the fruit that you have provided for us on this Labor Day.  As families, friends and relatives gather together to partake of the physical foods and enjoy the fellowship they will experience with one another, we pray for the safety and sanctity of each life and that the indwelling Holy Spirit will move in a powerful way to heal the sick and afflicted, bound up the wombs of the broken hearts,  lift the Spirits of those who are in need of encouraging, put joy in the hearts of those who are grieving, put a smile on the face of those who are frowning,  recreate a brand new spirit in the hearts of those who are harboring evil and hate; for this is truly a day that you have created for change to take place as we gather together and celebrate the winding down of our summer vacations and now await for the fall to enter in.  Father we thank you for this blessing, we love you, we honor you, we lift you up in Holy Praises, and we give our all to you this day for you are truly worthy to be praised.  In Jesus name, we pray, AMEN!

A WORD OF ADVICE FROM FATHER TO SON BE WISE AS A SERPENT

A WORD OF ADVICE FROM FATHER TO SON BE WISE AS A SERPENT 

Oh listen, dear child—become wise; point your life in the right direction. Don’t drink too much wine and get drunk; don’t eat too much food and get fat. Drunks and gluttons will end up on skid row, in a stupor and dressed in rags.

PASTOR DAVIS ADVISES HIS SON MAXIMILLION TO BE WISE AS A SERPENT

PASTOR DAVIS ADVICES HIS SON MAXIMILLION TO BE WISE AS A SERPENT

BUY WISDOM, EDUCATION, AND INSIGHT

 Listen with respect to the father who raised you, and when your mother grows old, don’t neglect her. Buy truth—don’t sell it for love or money; buy wisdom, buy education, buy insight.
Parents rejoice when their children turn out well; wise children become proud parents.
So make your father happy!  Make your mother proud!

 Dear child, I want your full attention; please do what I show you. A whore is a bottomless pit; a loose woman can get you in deep trouble fast. She’ll take you for all you’ve got; she’s worse than a pack of thieves.

Who are the people who are always crying the blues? Who do you know who reeks of self-pity?
Who keeps getting beat up for no reason at all? Whose eyes are bleary and bloodshot? It’s those who spend the night with a bottle, for whom drinking is serious business. Don’t judge wine by its label, or its bouquet, or its full-bodied flavor. Judge it rather by the hangover it leaves you with—the splitting headache, the queasy stomach. Do you really prefer seeing double, with your speech all slurred, Reeling and seasick, drunk as a sailor? “They hit me,” you’ll say, “but it didn’t hurt; they beat on me, but I didn’t feel a thing. When I’m sober enough to manage it, bring me another drink!” Proverb 23:19-35 MSG

 

HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT PART 2

HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT PART 2

PARENT’S HAVE THE GREATER RESPONSIBILITY

THE JOY OF WATCHING MY GRAND CHILDREN GROW UP (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

THE JOY OF WATCHING MY GRAND CHILDREN GROW UP (PHOTO BY SHIRLEY RHODES)

In part one of this four part series we talked about the role parents play in raising loving and respectable children.  We asked you to share your thoughts on what you would do to raise your children up in the right way that would make them a more responsible and productive adult in this society.  Several of you responded and I will share a couple of your response here.

One of our own Ministers, Sister Shirley wrote, “What we as adults, leaders, and parents must understand is that children are a gift from God, one to be cherished. They are our future leaders, doctors, teachers, etc., therefore our responsibility should be to teach and guide them now or pay the price in the future. Life is about choice and chance.”  

When I was a youth living in a small town, everyone knew everyone and no one was ever afraid to correct us if they saw us doing something wrong.  Today, if you correct a child when you see them doing wrong, you will have the parents knocking at your door for chastising their child.  You might even have the police come calling on you, if you are lucky that the child has not shot and killed you.  There is something badly wrong with this picture, but it is a true one today.

I can recall a time when I was in a vacation bible school; my wife at the time was teaching a Bible Study class with one of our Associate Ministers.  I had been called outside to break up a disturbance.  When I came back into the church, this young man’s sister was standing in the middle of the church cursing my wife and the pastor out using all sorts of foul language.  I escorted her outside and attempted to talk with her to no avail.  She left and within a few minutes, just after things had gotten back to normal within the church class, the doors swung open with a loud bang and a loud voice began to roar from the rear of the church.  It was the mother of the two teenagers yelling and screaming at me with language worst than her children had used, telling me what she was going to do to me if I ever put my hands on her children again.

Now this mother was the chairman of the usher board within the church.  Not only were her children wrong, but she was wrong for the way she handled the situation.  Her children went home and lied to her about what had taken place at the church.  She was willing to believe the worst from them, and instead of coming to find out what was going on, she came in accusing me and others of striking her children when no such thing had taken place.  If this had happened when I was a youth, I would have gotten my butt whipped before I left the church, then I would have been taken home to my parents and they would have whipped my butt again.  But you see, in today’s political correctness society, there are too many parents who refuse to correct their own children and will not allow anyone in the churches, schools or the community to do so.  Therefore, the youth’s attitude is you are not my parents and you can’t tell me what to do.  This is a sad commentary for our youth and it is a factor that is contributing to the youth violence in America today.

Another part of this problem of correcting children is some of the abuse that some parents have perpetuated upon their children that has caused the government to get more involved in our daily lives.  We parents are responsible for our children and we must shoulder that responsibility with love, understanding and patience.  Children can be a problem.  There is much peer pressure on them.  They want to fit in with their friends, therefore as a parent, we must try to understand their changing life style, and the growth hormones as they experienced adulthood.  We must treat them with respect, try and understand that they too do have problems and they may not always share those problems with us.  But we must always be willing to put our arms around them and daily tell them that we love them, even though we may not be having the kind of conversation we would like to have with them.  But I tell you that there is power in love.  When our youth can feel within themselves that they are loved, it brings a much different kind of respect from them.

Another one of our readers wrote and shared her story with us as to how she as a single parent is raising her daughter and preparing her for adulthood and to become a creative and productive member of this society.  Here is what she had to say; “I am trying to be here during my daughter’s childhood and teen years. I have chosen to sacrifice a more materialistic living in favor of being a stay at home mom. I’m available to my child when she comes home from school and stay available until she’s in bed at night. I find this helps immensely in our communication and the trust being built between us. We still have immense challenges, as I’m a single mom, but I’m so glad I made the decision to put her before materialism in our lives.”  (The Warrioress  Life of a female Blogger)  We encourage you to go by and read her writings.  You can reach her by clicking on this link:  http://lifeofafemalebiblewarrior.wordpress.com/

We also encourage you to share your story with us and we will include it in Part 3 of this series which we will post next week on Tuesday June 25, 2013.  Your story just might be the one that helps to encourage another parent to become a better parent or perhaps improve their parenting skills and even save a child’s life.

 

 

 

HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT

HOW DO YOU DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN AND TEACH THEM RESPECT

TEACHING CHILDREN ABOUT LOVE AND RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

TEACHING CHILDREN ABOUT LOVE AND RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

THERE IS ENOUGH BLAME TO GO AROUND 

Today we begin a four part series on raising loving and respectable children.  We invite each of you to share your thoughts and ideas, and we know that you do have lots of them and we will include as many of them as possible in this series.  We all can learn from each other and by sharing your experiences it might be just the one thing another parent could use to help teach their child respect and save their life.

We are living in very difficult times and raising Children is made more difficult for a variety of reasons and non-more so than the shrinking economy.  It is causing heart-aches, pain and stresses in a lot of families, and sometimes causes them to over react and make very bad decisions that have a negative effect on their children and family life.

Our Children are under a lot of pressure and they are acting it out in the homes, schools, streets and everywhere else with all sorts of violent acts.  When this begins to happen, people start point fingers and blaming others.  There is enough blame to go around when some say that it is liberalism that has caused the violence.  Others say that it is the removal of prayer from our schools.  Some say it is the steady stream of violence we see in the movies, on the nightly news cast, on all sorts of TV Programs and especially the video games.

There are still others who blame the government for overtaxing its citizens, and forcing parents to have to abandon their children for the workplace.

When it comes to our children using guns to settle their differences, there are those who would blame the gun manufacturers and the gun dealers.  But no where do we see anyone taking responsibility for what has happened.  Not the parents, schools, churches, business, government or the youth themselves.  Our U.S. Congress refuses to pass sensible Gun Laws that could be a help in stopping some of the Gun Violence, but No; everyone wants to place the blame on someone else.

It is time that we as parents begin to accept the major portion of responsibility and take control of our children’s lives and get the government out of our homes and bedrooms.  We as parents are responsible for raising our children and it does take the whole community to be involved and always willing to lend a helping hand.

Now I encourage each one of you to share some of your experiences in raising your own children and we will begin posting them in part two of PARENT’S RESPONSIBILITY.” Part Two will be posted on Thursday June 20, 2013.

 

 

FATHERS ROLE AS LEADERS IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY

FATHERS ROLE AS LEADERS IN THE AMERICAN FAMILY

WHY ARE FAMILIES BREAKING DOWN? PT-2

TRAVIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH CLEVELAND, GA. (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

TRAVIS CHAPEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH CLEVELAND, GA. (PHOTO BY PASTOR DAVIS)

WRITTEN BY PASTOR TERRY COOMER                                                                                                 Elwood Bible Baptist Church, Elwood, Indiana 46036

THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR IN THE BREAKDOWN OF THE HOME IS FATHERS NOT FULFILLING THEIR BIBLICAL ROLE OF LEADERSHIP IN THE HOME. This is the most important reason for unhappy families.

God says, worship is to be led by the father. “For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord to do justice and judgment; that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him” (Genesis 18:9).

Most fathers I know could care less. This is a wicked thing. There is more to being a father than just producing children. The lack of leadership by the father today in every area is the most important factor in the breakdown of the American home. I pray the Lord will give us more men like Joshua.

Joshua 24:14-15, “Now therefore fear the Lord, and serve him in sincerity and in truth: and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the flood, and in Egypt; and serve ye the Lord. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: BUT AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE, WE WILL SERVE THE LORD.”

There has to be a consecration by dad. There is more to a marriage than just living together in a physical relationship.

Lack of godly male leadership brings about the disastrous consequences of rebellion, delinquency, and sexual promiscuity. Divorce is usually caused by a father not taking his Biblical responsibilities and is something God hates, (See Malachi 2:12-17. Matthew 19:5-6.)

The most important cause of divorce in America is the lack of proper, godly leadership by the father and husband. It is also the most frequent cause of children’s feelings of rejection, behavioral problems, and anxieties.  Ephesians 6:1-4. Notice in verse 4, “And ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” The word “wrath” means a strong desire to avenge. How does a father provoke a child to wrath? By not bringing him up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord; Nurture means training with structure. Most fathers have no desire for the Word of God and they are raising angry vengeful children because they are not committed to training their children in spiritual principles as God commands. Of course, they cannot train the child if they are ignorant of God’s principles themselves. That is a picture of the American father.

David Blankenhorn in his 1995 book, Fatherless America,” says “the culture change from a stable, two parent home to the father’s abandonment of his responsibilities of marriage and parenting is America’s most urgent social problem. The father’s absence is the main reason for unhappy homes, many current social problems, and is a national crisis of our time.”

According to the National Fatherhood Institute, 40% of the children in the United States have not seen their father for a year! In the last 15 years “fatherless” children jumped from 10.2 million to 15.6 million. 70% of juveniles in detention centers and reformatories are children of fatherless homes. Statistics indicate that “violent criminals” are overwhelmingly males who grew up without a father’s leadership. This includes 60% of America’s rapists, 72% of adolescent murders, and 70% of long-term prison inmates. One out of every four high school seniors graduate functionally illiterate. It is more than a physical presence. There are many homes where a father is there, but that is all. They want all their needs fulfilled, but do not want to take the spiritual, godly, or normal leadership that God intended. Instead children grow up listening to their parents fight, cuss, yell, scream, spend money on all kinds of entertainment and material possessions trying to be happy.

The father’s failure to take responsibility and leadership in the home has created a valueless, unhappy, fractured home and society. This failure has had a devastating effect on our children and has spawned a multitude of wicked societal problems including delinquency, sexual promiscuity, drug use, and violence.

The family is in trouble in America because men fail to be the leaders God wants them to be. We desperately need to pray for the men of this country to do as God has commanded. The results of the men not obeying God have been disastrous. The great need is for men to repent of their sins, to really come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ, and then to be obedient to the commands of God from His Word. Men must be the leaders God desires them to be. May God help us to pray for the men of America.

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