OVER COME THE FEARS THAT ARE DESTROYING YOUR RELATIONSHIP
This is one of the most fearful times in our nation’s recent history for a lot of people. We have been through many trials and tribulations, and we can overcome our fears. How we respond to them, both individually and collectively, may determine the outcome.
However we view it, we must overcome our fears in order that we achieve the success GOD has already provided for us. So I ask you this day, “WHY ARE YOU ALLOWING FEAR TO DESTROY YOUR JOY?”
Know that our fears are from the devil, and the devil is nothing but a thief. A thief is only there to steal and kill and destroy.Jesus said, “I came so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of.” (John 10:10 MSG).
President Franklin D. Roosevelt famously said in his inauguration address in 1933 that “we have nothing to fear, but fear itself.” His words were meant to reassure a struggling people at the height of the Great Depression. Therefore, it is important to know and understand the word of God when He further tells us this, “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:7 AMP)
With this powerful gift given to us by the all mighty and powerful God, we have no need to fear. It is a state of mind that is causing us sickness, stress and physical illness that is destroying our lives.
In addition, we are experiencing coping behaviors and seeing – avoidance, denial, being reactive, staying busy and this is somewhat predictable, as are the feelings produced such as anxiety and anger.
We can trace back what is causing such reactions, to a large degree, to unanswered questions such as these: Are we in this together, or is it everyone for themselves? Will we ever find our way out of this, and if so, how long will it take?
Among the unfortunate psychological side effects of a crisis like this is:
People feeling isolated and believing that they having to work out their work and financial issues on their own because everyone else is preoccupied;
A loss of confidence in our economic and political institutions, and leadership of all kinds, and finally
A resulting loss of self-confidence and even depression as people cope with the crisis in different ways.
We can feel powerlessness and hopeless, which produces a cycle of futility that can spiral downward. However, we do have a choice; and the choice is very simple: Let the fear control your reactions, or embrace the fear. At a time like this, we could easily go negative or reactive, with predictable results. We could go naively positive and be viewed as out of touch. We could bury our heads in the sands of busyness in the hopes the crisis will go away. But one thing is clear, this is one set of crises from which we can run but definitely not hide.
If we are not going to run and hide but embrace this fear, what do you need to do?
One of the most important things is simply this; “Stay grounded:” Find your own ground first, where you are your true, authentic self – what truly matters to you, your core values, your mission in your work. Find a quiet place to reflect on what is true vs. what is perceived. From reflection comes discernment, and with discernment come perspective and a more positive attitude.
Maintain a realistic optimism: Practicing optimism in the face of the daily reports of Armageddon is not exactly easy. But optimism creates its own energy. It’s easier if we’re grounded daily, which gives us perspective. And with a positive attitude, we can avoid overreacting and actually create an environment in which we are looking for creative solutions.
Put the JOY back into your relationship by letting go of the FEARS that are keeping you in bondage and away from your JOY, PEACE AND HAPPINESS…