Happiness in your marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage the little things are the big things…
My Mother and Father were married for 65 years before she went to sleep 6 years ago. I witness some of their ups and downs in their marriage, but through it all they managed to raise 9 children and remain together with a solid bond of total commitment, love and respect for each other that help to ground me in such a way that my wife and I have sustained a 35 year marriage. So understand what I share with you in this lesson comes from personal experience, and I am certain many of you have had similar experiences that you can share as well.
So listen up and take note of these few simple principles…
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say, “I love you,” at least once each day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship shouldn’t end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives; it is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding the room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which “the independence is equal, the dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.”
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best, as expressed in the words Mark Twain used in a tribute to his wife: “Wherever she was, there was Eden.”
Now live, love and enjoy each moment that God has blessed you to be together in this union, because tomorrow is not promised. It is today that you must discover the power in the promises of God to stand on His promises and be happy with the one you love, by finding that sweet spot that allows you to be filled with joy and happiness.